They will start yelling at me for being mean to my siblings who are a bit younger than I yet my parents wont do anything to stop my siblings from being a real pain. I've tried to tell my parents that my siblings need to be stopped but nothing ever happens.
2007-02-07 12:01:05 · 6 answers · asked by Awesomesauce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh boy does this bring back memories. I was the oldest and I had the same problem. There is just more responsibility placed on the oldest.
What to do about it? Well, there may be nothing you can do to change it but here is an idea.
Talking with your parents is the best idea. Before you do, try a week or so following the rules and being a really good kid. You will want to approach them like an adult and you want them to see you like an adult. So, you need to act like an adult. Of course you can not be perfect, but try it for a week. It would be akward to approach them about this when the day before you snuck out or ditched school or something. Or even if you just talked back and had an argument.
So, act really great for a while then come to them to talk. Ask them when a good time would be. Trying to force a conversation when one of your parents has something on their minds or before they need to be somewhere could end in dissaster.
Sit down and CALMLY explain your feelings. Don't blame or whine. Use words like "I feel". Remeber that parents make mistakes too and that they really are trying the best they can.
Tell them that you are open to listening to them too. Then do it. Listen to them when they talk. Don't interupt. Then calmly and openminded try to come up with a solution.
I don't know many parents that would ignore their child if they were approached this way. It would impress me and I would be inclined to listen. My best bet is your parents will too.
2007-02-07 12:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by Triplescoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the best thing to do is to ignore your siblings...and your parents. I mean, if they ask do what they want you to do..don't be a total A-S-S about it. If they are just a bit younger than you...go in their room and take something of theirs and hide it...My little sister (who is 5...a significant age difference) have an understanding. She doesn't touch my things...and I won't touch hers...we get along famously. Just be authoritative with your siblings..and your parents will hopefully get the point that you need your alone time...
2007-02-07 20:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of the situation. Be an adult. Tell them you'd like to speak with them privately about something. Sit down with them, calmly and honestly tell them what's bothering you.
Don't accuse them of anything or whine. Just tell them "It feels like you hold me to a higher standards than them. So what's going on?" Make it clear how you feel, and that it doesn't make you feel good.
And if they don't do anything to change their behavior then call child protective services (look in the phone book) and ask them how they can help. They might be able to recommend some good family counselors. If the situation sounds really serious then they'll investigate the situation.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 20:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what is termed the joy's of childhood. LOL just get over it already cause the parents won't do anything. Do the best you can to ignore the siblings.
2007-02-07 20:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats not unusual. older siblings get stuck with the "responsibiltiy" of caring for and being a role model to thier younger siblings. its a pain, but thats just the way people think. i know it's not fair, but there is not much one can do about it.
2007-02-07 20:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe cuz, they can get HURT if ur hittin them, especially if they're less than 2-3 years younger...
2007-02-07 20:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋