Help me! Desperate for help, I have EXTREME social anxiety?

Question

Generally I'm an outgoing person. But when I'm out in public and around people, I'm always tense. With other people, I can't even look them in the eye and be confident. I would automatically feel tensed and frown or jumble my words until they look at me mad. I think I won't live very long, I cant take it anymore, and need help!!!! Will hypnosis work? Anything?

Answer 1

Ok, no one is better than you. You might want to work on thinking that when you are out, it helps me. Maybe take a deep breath and realize you only live once and you don't want to waste your time on this planet.
Maybe therapy could help you, I think therapy has helped a lot of people. There are also anxiety drugs you can take...I have a friend who takes them and they really helped her calm down and not feel so anxious.

Answer 2

Social anxiety is a difficult condition to deal with, but can be almost or completely cured with the right treatment.

What you need to do is try and go to your doctor to discuss this, from there you can be referred on to a specialist who will help to deal with this problem, in whatever way suits you best.

A method that is highly successful is called "cognitive therapy" which involves changing your thought pattern and replacing negatives ideas for e.g (why are people lauging at me) with more positive ones e.g (perhaps they're laughing to themselves about something funny that happened to them earlier on), and helping you to feel more confident around other people.

There are many other ways that may be more suitable for you...It's a slow process but it will work, if you get the right kind of help, trust me.

And remember, you are not alone, there are many other people out there in a similar situation, so don't keep this to yourself!

Answer 3

The solution to your problem is to have the guts to confront your problem.

Start in small steps.

Try holding eye contact with people for 1 second while you're talking to them. Then 2 seconds. And so on.

And so what if you trip over your words. Everyone gets nervous. Stop worrying about it so much and go out and talk to people. The more times you go out and make a fool out of yourself the better you'll get, the more you do it the faster you'll get used to talking to people.

It's all about reconditioning your mind in a positive way to overcome the negativity that's been built up.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Mindfulness of Breathing works great.

Practicing some breathing exercises help a lot for depression, worry, stress, fears, insecurities, anger, anxieties, loneliness, & for all unwanted emotional states, etc.
Mindfulness of Breathing exercises:
1) Be in a comfortable position, whether sitting
or lying down.
2) Have someone watch your other children for
about 10 or 15 min. [Increase in time, after practicing for a month].
Then close your eyes, and concentrate
totally on your breathing.
3) At the end of your first inhalation of oxygen,
count one. Keep doing this until you get to
ten. Remain patient with yourself.
4) Then focus your attention on breathing only
through your nostrils, which filter out all
the things, which are not healthy to breath
into your lungs. Be aware of the various
sensations through your nostrils, while you
continue the counting. When you get to
ten, start again at one.
5) When a distracting thoughts enters your mind
allow them to pass through {your mind], w/out
analyzing them, or judging them, or trying to fix them.
And then gently, patiently bring your full
attention back to your breath. Every time,
a distracting thought {any thought which
would take your attention of your breath),
comes to your mind, you need to use this
skillful, disciplinary method of bring it back.
Thoughts do come into our minds, especially
worrisome , or pressing thoughts
which dictate to us that we have an anxious mind.
Just be patient w/yourself, and keep practicing.
**"There is already proven evidence of the
Success of The Mindfulness of Breathing
exercises Proven by Dr. Jon Kabat-ZinnPhD
and by many other Dr.s and Scientists as
well. Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD. has a book
out called, "Coming to Our Senses' which
teaches this. *There is also a book called, " The
Beginner's Guide to Insight Meditation"
by: Arinna Weisman & Jean Smith is most
Excellent also.*” Insight meditation is a higher
form of The Mindfulness of Breathing exercises, which
greatly help us to accurately, & clearly see things as they really are!! It's really helpful.
For some it may be necessary to take a anti-depressant, or to pray to a god for strength, or confidence, or comfort. If this helps you deal with stress, anxiety, depression, etc. Then practice this also. Use whatever methods which help you or combine them, to receive Most help.
I practice mindfulness of breathing to reduce stress, providing insight into life. It is Great !
P.S. - the mindfulness of breathing helps with anger a lot too. Reading the book: "Working with Anger.” by: Thubten Chodron will help if you experience occasional anger/are under the influenceof anger or hatred often. I use to get impatient, intolerant, and angry toward those who criticize, harshly judge, or condemn other people for having different beliefs. I found that
Working with anger – helped a great deal. Be very Patient with Yourself, and continue the practice of the Mindfulness of Breathing daily. Even if your at first, only able to commit to 10 min. a day. "This meditative practice, the mindfulness of breathing exercises are what Medical Doctors, Psychiatrists, most Psychologists and especially Cognitive Behavioral Therapists teach their patients to help them intelligently to control symptoms of depression, anxieties, insecurities, bipolar, adhd, worries, loneliness, And for many people who are pessimistic in life, as well as many other unwanted mental and emotional states. Check out the books I have suggested to you. I have full confidence in you as you practice The Mindfulness of Breathing daily.

Answer 5

be confident think like you are better than all of them even be stuck up sometimes but not too much have a cocky attitude but dont let it get out of hand

Answer 6

jesus loves you pray pray pray tell him about your problems he will help you email me if you have any problems!