Do you check your child's activity online? Check their Yahoo/Answers profile or 360 or myspace page???
I don't mean snooping and ragging at every little thing.
I"m asking b/c I see these kids online who say they're about 15 and they obviously need some TLC from mom/dad. They're just screaming for help. My daughter is 14, however, b/c she is in special ed. she is very limited on the internet.
But I do check on her. Sometimes, I may glance over her shoulder or ask her what she's doing, who she's emailing. I have even logged into her account. It may be different for me b/c she's in special ed. and she doesn't have the freedoms or knowledge of the average 14/15 yr old, but I wonder if I would do the same even if she wasn't. Based on what I see here, yes I definately would/will.
2007-02-07 11:44:04 · 8 answers · asked by LittleFreedom 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You better believe I do! Our stepson is 16 and too smart for his own good. I do keep tabs on his activities, including his telephone conversations and purchases (I opened a joint account with him where his allowance is deposited and he receives no cash. Everything he buys, I see on monthly statement) May sound too extreme, but as I see it, it's just too damn bad!
I've seen my share of tragedies in criminal court and I know how easily a teen can get in trouble these days. I just don't want to be that parent who cries "I should have seen it, I should have done more" once it's too late.
Of course his dad and I never miss opportunity to teach him little life lessons, because we want him to be able to think for himself, and 99% of the time he does just that. Still, kids will be kids and the bottom line is that until he's 18, his mess-ups are mine and my husband's liability so yes, WE ARE WATCHING.
As for the "baby", of course he was annoyed for a while about his folks "hovering" as he put it, but when his common sense failed him a couple of times, he was pretty quick about thanking his "old lady" for saving his behind. I always call my "hovering" as his insurance policy, just in case his common sense quits on him.
2007-02-07 18:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sophy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a 13 yr old daughter. I check her email occasionally, no notice given. I log onto any post boards she has posted to, like her Harry Potter boards, to see what is going on. I keep her Yahoo Messenger Archives and I read them fairly regular. I check the computer's history and Yes I even read over her shoulder sometimes.
I am concerned about what goes on in my child's life both online and off-line. That is my job. I trust her, but I also know things can happen to young girls. It has actually very little to do with trust. It has to do with keeping my beautiful daughter safe. She is incredibly trusting even for a 13 yr old. Predators know exactly the questions to ask a girl or boy to figure out where they are. Make no mistake. I will protect my child, even at the risk of invading her privacy. And Yes, I regularly read her diary. And she knows it. :)
2007-02-07 19:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Karen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey im a teen not parent but i totally agree with you some of these kids that are only 15 and having babys tells me mom and dad never had "the talk". i read one profile were a 17 year old was in charge of her 14 year old sis while there mom was in china for like 6 months and the 14 was prego and wanted to let her sis get an abord so mom would never know... i think thats just crazy... but yea i totally agree with u and when ever i start having kids im gonna be that over-protective parent theres a lot of sick people in this world now a days so dont pay no mind to all the people who answer this saying anything negitive .... sry about your kid being slower, my little cousin is like that and it can be a very big chalenge all the special kids i have ever met are very sweet and its a shame they have to be limited to there activities sounds like your doing a pretty good job tho good luck
2007-02-07 20:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by elf 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
With all of the bullying that can go on with the internet, it may be smart to keep tabs on your teenager. It is something that you need to be careful of though, because if you trust your child then there is no need to worry. If you are worried about other kids then try asking questions. She may even let you look at her page if you show enough interest and that way you aren't going behind her back.
2007-02-07 19:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda G 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I check on my children ages 18, 15 and 10
It has never been that I did not trust them it is the others I do not trust. When my 18 year old was about 14 someone had sent something to her that was not at all appropriate, she came to me upset about it. I spoke to the other child's parents he was only 13. They took action and started to monitor him as well.
We as parents need to stay informed about what our children are up to and not back down just because they do not like it.
I talk with my girls all the time, I hear things I did not want to. I am just greatful they come to me.
2007-02-08 00:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by desiree c 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just because she's in special ed doesn't make her mentally ill just have trust in her and be there for her no matter what when you spy and sneak in to your children stuff it will cause them distrust she have faith that she will make the right decision .I'm not trying to be mean or disrespectful.
2007-02-07 19:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by day shaun 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok...well i think parents should trust there kids for once
2007-02-07 19:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by Liya 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no, thats what you call over-protective.
2007-02-07 19:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by yahhahaha 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋