me and my mom....?

Question

keep fighting and i hate it it drives me crazy but sometimes i cant stand her at all! and she recently just made me move away form the only things i knew and i absolutely hate where i am now i hate the people the school the life i feel like im gonna just die of bein so homesick i wanna go home so bad it aint even funny and dat is also drivin me and my mom apart becuz she made me move out here wat should i do

Answer 1

I know how you feel, I was there once myself and many many years later I still have that feeling of wanting to go HOME. Unfortunately there is not much you can do about it, but you can make the experience worse of better depending on how you deal with it.

I did not deal with it well and it messed up a good part of my life. You can do better. first try not to be angry at your mom, I am sure she is probably just doing what she thinks she needs to do and not trying to hurt you.

Secondly, find a school counselor or some one else you can talk to, because you are experiencing real LOSS. It is normal to feel upset about loosing your whole way of life.

Third, I know it sounds lame, but try to find the positive things about the new place. It took me 20 years to do, but it took moving somewhere else to appreciate where I live now.

Four, try to stay in touch with as many old friends as possible.

Hang in there, I know you are hurting, you have a right to, but please be careful about the choices you make because they most definitely affect the rest of your life.

Like me finally going to college at 39, i could have done much better when I was younger.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

Part of the reason you keep fighting is because you are the age you are. You are beginning to grow up. You aren't a baby anymore, but you ARE her baby. It's a difficult time for girls your age because your harmones are all out of whack. You are insecure because you don't know what changes you can expect, and you may not necessarily be comfortable with the changes that take place. It's hard for your mom because she is starting to see that you are growing up, and she realizes it won't be all that long before you're really grown and gone. That's a tough realization for a mom.

As for her moving you away somewhere away from your friends.....I doubt very seriously she moved just to be mean to you. Parents have a lot more urgent things to handle in life to spend that much time and money. I'm sure she had a very important reason to move or she wouldn't have done it. And it was most likely for the good of the family.

Give yourself a little time to get used to the place. Do Not sit inside and feel sorry for yourself. Get out and about in your new neighborhood. Try to focus on the good things, and not on the bad. It can be a new adventure if you'll relax and let it. Put a smile on your face, and say "hi" to people. You'll make new friends in no time.

Answer 3

For now, make the most of your situation. Give it a chance where you live now. If you act mature about the new living situation she'll be more likely to listen to you when you explain that you are unhappy. She won't be willing to listen if you haven't even given it a fair shot and your already begging to go back to where you used to live. I moved before too, i hated it at first but i gave a chance and really loved it. It's a great new start. Don't go in hating everyone or you won't have a good time. good luck! Also, don't hate your mom and be resentful towards her for the move. she may have had her own reasons why it was necessary to move and feels badly about making you unhappy.

Answer 4

Hi Lovely. I know that my avatar is a man, but I'm actually a 50 year old female. Now, to your problem.
Sounds familiar, every teenager on the planet thinks that there parents were put here to make their life a living hell. I'm sure that your Mom probably had to move you do to employment or something like that. Think of it this way, as you get older you will have to make choices and you will be able to relocate with out a problem. You see, I have never stayed in one place for more than a year, so I really don't understand people that stay in one place there whole lives. Please try to adjust to your new surroundings, I know its hard, but I'm sure there are some good people in your new area. With todays Internet, you can stay in touch with all your old buddys. Try to give your Mom a break, its hard, its really hard, being a single Mom, making choices for our children, we really do only think in the best interest of our children. Please try to come to gribs with the move, meet new people and get alone with your Mom. Life is short.

Answer 5

Same thing happened to me, I think everyone goes through something like that.......I got moved 3 provinces away from my friends and my boyfriend at the time, I hated the new school. I also hated my parents for moving me. A couple weeks later I made some friends and I started liking it there............but my mom and I did nothing but fight. I ended up being kicked outta the house. You dont want that........Just talk with her........and maybe she could send you back to where you were on school breaks to visit.....might make you feel better..........I eventually felt alot better where I was..........I liked it. Good Luck.

Answer 6

She is likely having a foul day, if she is like this continuously possibly you should attempt helping her out some around the abode you comprehend do a load of cloths and fold them,sweep the floor,vacume or dirt in basic terms take 10 min out of the day to do something effective she will be able to be grateful i comprehend im a mom and a spouse my youthful ones are youthful so as that dont complication me that they dont help out reason they cant yet my hubby is lazy i'd like it if he may in basic terms flow do the dishes and sweep the floor and do an outstanding pastime at it you comprehend not 1/2 a*s! good success inclusive of your mom

Answer 7

Why are you afraid of new places and meeting new people it is the spice of life. Most americans are very sheltered when com-paired to other European nations teens routinely travel by train and stay out late at night. There is Very Little Crime and No Drinking/Partying.
You are not being fair to yourself or your Mom, You need Friends and the best way to get a friend IS TO BE FRIENDLY. You could start at school, Church or teen clubs. Maybe you could help at the homeless shelter or a animal shelter.
The balls in your court .

Answer 8

have you tryed talking to her about it if not you need to talk to her a express your feeling about the move if that does not work try asking her about maybe going to visit your friend that you had before over the summer or when you get some time form school if u are in school if that does not work try making some new friendsits hard at first but you will met someone whomay have the same problem as you it may work in your favor

Answer 9

i feel i have the same prob with my mother and im almost 21! she needs to know how you feel, so talk to her as an adult and make her see that you have feelings and these things matter and affect you, even if she thinks it doesnt. let her know you are your own person. a relationship with your mother is a great thing to have, sometimes the kids have to work at the relationship rather than the adult.

Answer 10

chill....relax.... so what that you moved , just make the best of it ......why do you fight for ? you could never win ...you are her daughter , she supports you . you just wanna leave home , go to work in 14 hour shifts just to have a roof over your head and a brad on the table ? just make the best of what you got right now !