Everyday he asks me who i hugged at school or if anything "happened" (hugs). At times that can be annoying. But the thing is hes been liek this our whole relationship. He used to ask me who i talked to everyday and what i wore.. but he doenst do that anymore. Just who i hugged. He also doesnt let me hang out with my guy friends. Ive never done anything to distrust him so i never fully understnad why he is this way. About last year i danced with anotherr guy at a school dance and he for sure blew up about that. I love him to death but sometimes its just annoying.. And whenhe gets angry. And yells and screams at me and tells me toshut thef*** up and calls me stupid. had a myspace. And any guy that left a comment saying i was pretty was delteed. He had my password and if i changed it he would threaten to not call me. The reason ive been in this relationship somuch is because despite the bad i see the good. I love him so muchbut i dont know somtimes i feel liek he takes me for granted.
2007-02-07 11:32:16 · 15 answers · asked by hot_pink_sunsets 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and by the way.. for those of you saying i can't spell... i can thank you you just have to crap all the words together so it will fit. I'm not stupid im on the honor roll and tennis team*
2007-02-07 11:54:28 · update #1
Sweetie, the good is totally outweighed by the bad here. NO MAN SHOULD TELL YOU TO SHUT THE F UP. Period. He screams and yells at you and is very controlling. This is not a healthy relationship and there is no way you should continue it. I know I cannot convince you, but when your list of bad is the way it is...it should end. He is out of control, messing with your passwords and his threats are just off track honey. Run out of this relationship before you get stuck in it forever and it goes from bad to worse.
2007-02-07 11:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man of yours sounds very mature and responsible for his age. Many high school students have no idea what it is like to help support a family and still do school work as well. A high school senior? So he is 17-18 years old. If he is 18, He is legally an adult. I say he already is an adult with the responsibility that he is burdened with at his age. You want to be open about this ? The moment he turns 18. ( if he isn't already. ) You just tell people that he is the MAN that you LOVE !! And that's all they need to know. I understand your concern, You are a woman in love and want what is right for him and you without hurting him or being unfairly judged by society. If he is only 17, then keep it low key until he is 18. After he is 18, why should you care what anyone else thinks ? You will both be adults, So what is wrong with that ? If your both 18, And the love between you is true, Then follow your hearts. Love is the most precious of all gifts and it should not be squandered. I hope this has helped you, And I wish you well.
2016-05-24 04:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so neither of you are normal... its called dependancy. and you apparently ahve it. anyone who is going to crazed over who u danced with at a school dance or go in and delete your myspace comments is too jealous. And the fact that you actually put up with someone who told you to shut the fkcu up is absurd... that is a very very bad habit.
If he loved you, he would a) trust you and b) treat you waaaaayyyy better. Sounds like you really care about him, so I doubt u are gonna dump him (although in my humble opinion you should quit him like the bad habit he is). The next best thing to do is to talk to him about it. Tell him to change or you are done with him... give him a chance to change and if he doesnt get out bc next his temper might get the better of him and he might really hurt you.
2007-02-07 11:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. Tell him how you really feel. and tell him that no guy can take his place. if he tells you to shut up then just move on this guy doesnt care but if he tries than thats a different story. Also one way which is not the best way, is to break up with him, he'll see what he lost and he'll do anything to take you back but remember thats is NOT the best idea.
2007-02-07 11:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I guess spelling is optional in school these days, huh? Do you guys even care about education any more or is hooking up the only thing you all care about? You really need to concentrate on your school work and develop yourself. If you become a smart woman, you won't have to wait on boys to pick you or take you for granted. You'll be someone that all the boys and young men will look up to. Get on the honor roll, make varsity in some sport, do something cool with your spare time besides chase boys. What do you have going for yourself right now that makes you a hot item in anyone's book? Come on, Woman Up and make something of yourself.
2007-02-07 11:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Give him a break, he just doesn't want someone to mess up what he thinks is the very best gene pool.
Once you understand, you just understand - and that's it. Work on spelling first, then maybe psychology. Just because he is a little deficient in the " explanation department ", doesn't mean he is just rude.
2007-02-07 11:45:55 · answer #6 · answered by butch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first husband was worse than that believe me...no make up, wear bulky clothing, couldnt wear anything sexy even underneath or he'd say something like...who you wearing that for? me/him
duh. if i came home from work up one side of the street instead of the other...(had to do with traffic) he would accuse me of seeing somebody...that wouldve given me exactly 30secs to do so coming straight home from work. i couldnt look at anyone in their face, nor smile. nothing. no friends, no family. If we did have friends over.....he would get drunk and accuse me of meeting someone in the hall of our own house if I was coming out of the bath from peeing! Why why why ??? I remember that and wont forget it as being a miserable existance! You just cant please a jealous person...they will find something else to be insecure about. He has to have faith in you, he has to learn that be losing you. peace
2007-02-07 11:44:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you take some of the responsibility for the problem ?
Sounds to me like you are enjoying it a little to much .
How ever if a guy ever talked trash to me like that (swearing) I would be long gone .
2007-02-07 11:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an abusive future husband for someone. Get out while you can dear!
2007-02-07 11:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this immature, insecure,and jealous guy! He has issues and is not good boyfriend material!
2007-02-07 11:36:12 · answer #10 · answered by Vinnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋