I would like to include a small memorial for my brother in my wedding program . Any ideas how?

Question

I need help with the proper wording. I want something soft and simple. Any web sites with sample wording would help too.

Answer 1

Are you lighting a memorial candle? If so you can put this under the line where you put Memorial Lighting
The memorial candle is lit in honor of the bride's brother, (Name).
OR
On this day of happiness, we would like to remember those who are no longer with us, especially (name) the Brides Brother.

My mother passed away 5 years ago. I am placing a bouquet of red carnations on the first seat in the front row and the officiant will say "Weddings are time to not only celebrate love, life, and happiness, but also to celebrate the lives of those who are no longer with us because they have helped shaped who we are today. In memory of the brides mother, Martha a bouquet of red carnations has been placed on the first seat in the front row."

Hopefully this helped a little.

Answer 2

There are a few places near where I live where they do a meal and also have entertainment (eg a chinese with a karaoke - its really really good fun and not tacky). We also have an american diner place that has a singer type person as a sound and look alike, there must be loads of these type of theme places around that could be quite fun and then not rip you off. Normally if you mention the word 'wedding' for anything the price shoots up! TGI's is a good idea too. Going out somewhere would be a good idea as it can be grief free for everybody as there is no tidying up. :-)

Answer 3

Here is a poem by E. E Cummings i think its good.. try to fit it in there somewhere..

i carry your heart

i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
i fear no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you

here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)

Answer 4

At my wedding we had pictures at the altar of family members (siblings, grandparents) who were not physically present, but in spirit. Under each picture we had a small votive that was lit at the same time our other candles were lit before the ceremony. In the program under our "Thank you for sharing our day with us" message we wrote that the pictures and candles at the altar were in "memory of our loved ones who could not be with us". My sister had a single rose in the church pew holding the spot for each member not present. Hope this helps!

Answer 5

My friend has just done this -
Her groom wore two flowers in his lapel during the ceremony (her btother would have been his best man)
At the reception, at the beginning of his speech, he removed one flower and gave it to the bride. She kissed it & laid it in front of her. He said "This flower is for our brother, David. We know he wished us well and will watch over us always. We miss you Dave." He then raised his glass and just said "To absent friends, held close here in our hearts".

He then went on with his speech as normal. Very brief, very simple - I thought it was lovely. It was a sad moment, but it did not spoil the joy of the day.

Answer 6

well i dont know any sites you can go to but at my wedding we had a memorial for my bubba and we had a chair of remebrance, we lit a candle me, my mom,dad, and sister,and all the groomsman wore a little piece of baby blue fabric where the collar is, there is so many ways to remeber him , i am so sorry for your loss i know what your going through, i lost my bubba in may 2006 then i was married in july so it was real hard... but congrats on your big day remeber he willl be there with you always

Answer 7

You can name him as an honoary groomsmen and have his sunrise and sunset date and some words that express your memory of him in the program. Or you can have a candle left unlit in the memory of your brother!!

Answer 8

It's not really appropriate to do much regarding this; I realize your sentiment. A proper place to mention something would be when you are giving your thank you at the reception dinner program.

Answer 9

Go to www.invitationsbydawn.com they have a lot of things for weddings to remember a love one.They have this memorial vase ,on this vase it has IN Loving Memory these flowers bloom as a symbol of a life and love remembered.

Answer 10

on the back of printed material like a wedding prayer have a picture and under it say we know my brother [ name
] is here in spirit today we miss his physical presence at this occasion