I will be 18 in two days and i am expectin my 2nd baby soon!!! and i wanna kno how do i get my 1 in a half year old ready for the new baby!! what do i tell her how do i explain to her that a new bay is comin to leave wit us. will she understand and how will she cope!!
2007-02-07 11:24:15 · 5 answers · asked by Mommie of 3 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
our daughter was 15 months when we had our son. she loved him from the minute she saw him. she has never been jealous of him once. just talk about the new baby in your tummy and let her know that she is going to be a big sister and she can help you take care of her/him. involve her when the baby gets here, let her feel like she is helping. set aside a special time for you and her so she doesn't feel left out since the baby will get most of your time. kids are smarter then we give them credit for. make it exciting for her!
we had a third baby 6 months ago and they were both great with her too. they love to help change her diapers and watch her get a bath and play with her on the floor. she will love her new brother or sister!
good luck and congrats!
2007-02-07 11:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tracie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to know too. I am 18 also with a 2 year old daughter and I am expecting a baby in 4 weeks. I waited until I started to get big to tell her that there is a baby in my belly. She understands but I just don't know how to prepare her for when he actually comes home and doesn't leave.
2007-02-07 19:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children that young can understand. Mine did.
You have to tell her about the baby straight away and not wait until the baby is actually there. With my daughter I explained that Mummy was having a baby and that meant she would be a big sister. I got her really excited about being a BIG sister.
I showed her illusatrations of fetuses, so she knew how big the baby was inside me. I took her to all my Dr's appointments. My Dr was really nice and she got Dani to help her measure my fundal height and let her use the machine that lets you hear the babies heartbeat. Dani was soooooooo excited when she was the one to use it and listen to the heartbeat. The Dr let her use her stethascope afterwards so she could listen to her own heartbeat.
I took her to the ultrasounds so she could see the baby on TV, which she loved!!!
I bought her a baby doll that cried so she had a baby as well. I taught her to change nappies and wrap the baby and how to hold the baby. ( On the lounge with cushions all around to suppourt her and the baby, and that she couldnt move once she was holding the baby)
I also got her a doll that you could get wet, and taught her how to wash the baby. I also held the baby for a few hours (on/off) each day, so she would get used to seeing me holding someone else.
I explained that as the big sister she would have certain jobs to look after the baby and teach the baby.
I got a really great book about a little girl that becomes a big sister.
I got Dani to feel my stomach when the baby moved ( freaked her out at first but she loved it) and she would talk to the baby in my belly. She wouldnt go to sleep at night unless she had laid her head on my belly and sung the baby a lullaby!!!! Super cute.
Dani had no problem when Tilly was born. It was her job to choose the outfits the baby would wear each day.( lay out a few that are appropriate for the weather and let them choose) and at bath time it was her job to gently wash the babies feet and legs. She felt so important and like a great big sister because she was contributing to the care of the baby. She would sit there all day with the baby and tell me if the baby moved or woke up or needed a feed. It was so beautiful. And now they are 6 and 4 and great sisters.
I hope this helped. Just make sure you explain everything (including hospital stay and who will look after her, maybe get them to come over for a speacial time a few weeks before the due date to get her used to spending more time with them) and get her involved. Get a doll and treat it like a real baby and get some good books about babies and big sisters. Show her pictures of yourself pregnant with her and say 'look this is when you were in Mummies belly' and show her pictures of herself as a newborn.
Also make sure you set aside a time before and after the baby to have a special time with the oldest. So they dont feel left out or miss you. I breastfed so while I bfed I used tat time as story time for Dani. That way we were all sitting down and relaxing and I was taking care of both their needs at the same time. Also having Nanny or Pop or Daddy to have a a special time with the oldest each week. Whether its going to the park or reading or colouring or whatever. Just so she feels special (as the baby will get alot of attention) another thing is before the baby comes home ask everyone that will come visit to make sure they say hello and congratulate the toddler before they go all nutty over the baby.
Oh yeah and go shopping and get your child to buy a present for the baby. That way they have a gift for the baby when they visit you in hospital. And give them a present from the baby.
Good Luck with it all. And congratultions
2007-02-07 22:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age there isn't much you can do to prepare them but once the new baby is home you can buy your eldest a baby doll so when you are feeding the new one they feed dolly and the same when you change it and put it to bed. This way they are joining in the experience and won't feel left out or jealous.
2007-02-07 19:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by homer28b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my second one was on the way I got a doll and some toy baby bottles and pacifier and talked with my 22 month old son about what to do with a baby. He understood. He was always giving his baby brother the toy bottles and pacifier..it was really cute.
2007-02-07 19:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋