My parents don't approve of my boy...I get their reasons, he has some qualities that I know they don't think are fit for me...also, he's done some messed up things in his life and has tattoos and the one time he met them, it wasn't a very good meeting. Like he tried too hard and started BSing a little about his life.
Don't think I don't care about this...I really do, and it bothered me enough to confront him! But we've been together for 4 months, I see him every day, and I love him. I've never felt this way about anyone, and I'm 24! He can be a handful and a mess, but he's funny and strong and smart and has so much potential and desire to be better. Anyway, I love and forgive his faults too. Annnd he loves me, he's never broken my trust, and any suspicions are always dispelled.
But my parents don't approve...every time I go see him, it's like a stolen moment, and I have to make things up half the time...so they hardly trust me, and we're not the same wonderful family...help plz
2007-02-07 11:19:03 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so I think that if you really care about him then you need to talk to your parents. Tell them to give the guy another shot. He shouldn't be judged based on his tats (looks) but based on who he is as a person and how he treats their daughter. Tell them how much he means to you (without saying "love" bc they will probably think you are rushing that)... then talk to your man.
Tell him that he has to come over again for another family introduction and innterogation. Tell him to RELAX and that the last thing he needs (or you want him) to do is to lie and make stuff up. The parents will see right thru a BS story and then assume that it wasn't him lying be he was trying to impress them but that hes just a bad guy.. so at NO time should he try to make anything up, even with the good intention of impressing them... it will onlky back-fire.
If it still doesn't go well, keep seeing him.. eventually the fam will get that he IS really important to you and makes you happy... eventually (hopefully) they will come around and he can grow on them.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 11:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Heart of Gold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have reason not to trust you, you're doing something against their wishes. If you're still living at home, under their roof, you need to respect their wishes. You're being dishonest by making stuff up about where you're going. The small lies only lead to bigger lies. They're protective of you, because they want what's best for you, and obviously they don't feel this guy is the right one for you. You've listed as many cons as you have pros about the guy. Personally, I'd think twice about dating someone with as many reasons not to.
2007-02-07 11:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋