we're both 14 and we never find guys that are really cute. the only guys who like us are not the cuttest if you know what i mean. how do we make ourselves available to really cute guys. its flattering that those guys like us, but we dont like them back.
2007-02-07 11:11:29 · 36 answers · asked by inspired_red6 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to the guys you want to date.
2007-02-07 11:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugly guys have nothing to lose, they are always gonna be ugly, so they operate without the fear of rejection, because they are used to it. Better looking guys are usually shy. It is ok for a girl to go and start the conversation with a guy. As long as your intentions are just dating(though 14 is a little young). Go up to the cute guys and say hello, it wont cost a thing. All guys know, a girl that breaks the ice, is gaurenteed to be awesome!
2007-02-07 11:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by willy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever see the movie "Shallow Hal"? You may want to sit and watch that ... and try to understand the message behind it. It saddens me to see you write that you don't like someone because they're not the most attractive person in the world. And you're only ...14. Some of the most wonderful people out there, are >not< the most attractive on the outside, .. but measure far beyond the hottie's and the cuties , on the inside. Until you actually grasp the concept that physical appearances aren't what make us who we are, you'll never attract >anyone<. Sad ...
2007-02-07 11:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations for being mature enough to find it flattering that a guy you aren't attracted to likes you. So many girls find it insulting as if a not-so-cute looking guy has no taste or something. And don't forget looks change...a not so cute guy now, can get more and more attractive as you get to know him and also as he matures. Looks are every changing. The heart is the place to start. (sounds lame but true)
The key to getting anyone to like you is liking yourself. Get involved in activities that will bring you around the guys you do like or are interested in. But don't do things you don't enjoy for the mere sake of being around them. Show confidence and take care of your appearance (by this I do not mean dress trampy or wear too much makeup). Also you might find yourself more comfortable around guys you are less interested in, and because of this you are more comfortable and free with yourself because you aren't looking for their approval you are just yourself. Being around boys you like may cause you to feel more self conscious. That too could make it harder to be noticed for the right reasons. So keep the same attitude around everyone. I hope that helps a bit.
2007-02-07 11:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*shakes head* you are basing ppl on looks, which when your young, i completely understand where your coming from. I used to be like that to a point, but not that i have had some experience, i know better... Good looks, dont mean a good match. Sure, he might be good looking or handsome, but doesn't mean he is nice or smart or funny or alot of good things that can take a relationship to a whole new level.
Be yourself, and I wish you luck on finding someone cute, but i hope you luck out and he is also a good guy.
2007-02-07 11:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both should stop trying to attract cute guys, since its not happening in your favor both, then LEAVE THEM ALONE, and try now to concentrate on your school work that by eighteen you both graduate with high honors, say college here we are, then move on to Yale, and coming out with papers that put you in a aristocratic office and those cuties will perhaps be standing to the side looking in, trust me this can happen very easy.
2007-02-07 11:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THats kind of messed up, how you two go about judging a guy on looks and not character. No amount of make-up or anything is going to change the guys you attract, or even attract "cute" guys.
Just know that you attract whoever.
2007-02-07 11:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you are only 14. The guys that are way cute, are grown, mature....18! That means if they mess around with you, they go to jail. They are just watchn their backs. Any 18 year old that DOES fool around with you, is BAD NEWS! Be patient. Your handsome hunk will come soon enough.......and probably break your heart! That's life.
2007-02-07 11:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by RAE-J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at 14, your choices are and should be limited. Let's face it, you are barely pubescent and boys usually aren't pubescent yet. Studies have shown that guys usually approach women within a "comfort zone" of beauty. In other words, like usually approaches like. Perhaps you are expecting too much of these guys or perhaps you are over judging your own attractiveness.
2007-02-07 11:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being cute is like beauty it is in the eye of the beholder. You may chose a cute one that you wish you could trade later on for one of those not as cute.
2007-02-07 11:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see, thats your problem, looking for cute guys that every other girl is gonna want, thats where the problem comes in. reverse the tables and say if you and your friend were ugly ducklings, even the not so cute guys would talk to you and your friend, think about it
2007-02-07 11:15:49 · answer #11 · answered by davionmw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋