I have been looking for a certain kind of guy my whole life: intelligent, scholarly, into philosophy, literature, tall, dark, handsome, charming, musically talented. Those are the exact qualities that turn me on and in combination make the perfect man for me. I have not been able to find him, until recently. I met him at a cafe randomly, when he introduced himself to me. The only problem is, I have a boyfriend that I love. We've been together for 5 months now. I love him, but he is not "the one". I'm not willing to break up with him for this other man who I've only spoken to once, who we'll call Brian, but I would like to get to know Brian a little better before I completely write him off. Brian asked for my e-mail adress and would like to go out for coffee. Is it okay to JUST go out for coffee to find out a bit more about him? I would never cheat on my boyfriend, but I don't want to miss out on finding "the one". And advice?
2007-02-07 11:10:05 · 6 answers · asked by jodiehgarland 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes we have certain expectations and qualities that we look for in the opposite sex and believe that those are what it takes to make us happy. and as realistic as they may seem, sometimes we forget that it doesnt really take all those things to really make us happy. you sound happy with your current bf and he probably doesnt posses all those qualities altogether that you say are what completely turn you on. those qualities describe the perfect man in your eyes. but nobody can guarantee you that the perfect man will make you absolutely and incandecently happy. so if you wanna get to know "Brian" more then go ahead. but of course you'd be getting to know him to see if he's relationship material. but think about how you would feel if your current bf would start getting to know a girl on the side on "just friends" terms but really for other kinds of reasons. i just hope you really do what you can live with and wont regret. good luck.
2007-02-07 11:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say get to know brian, he may seem like the one, but it takes so much more than one meeting to get to know someone. get to know brian as a friend and try to only think of him as a friend so that it doesn't get complicated with your boyfriend. if after u get to know brian really well u still tihnk he's 'the one' and u and ur boyfriend as still together, u'll have to break up with ur boyfriend, but don't do something ur gonna regret, u don't know brian that well yet. take ur time then make ur desicion. u want to be in love and infatuated
do u think u could help me out a little be answering my turnabout question?
thanks
2007-02-07 19:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by sexyhot_dancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know your current bf isnt the one, break it off now. Dont continue to lead him on. Then even if the other guy isnt "the one" you will be open to meeting the right guy when he comes around. Dont be the girl who cheats on her boyfriend. Break up with him if you know he isnt right for you. You can love a guy and not be with him. It is okay. And you dont have to be with a guy all the time. Even if the other guy doesnt work out for you, at least you gave it a shot and wont regret it.
2007-02-07 19:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough situation. In my opinion, if you feel like you're current boyfriend isn't "the one" and Brian may be then maybe you should explore it. You dont wanna miss out on one person because you're afraid to leave the other. Good luck!
2007-02-07 19:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by BluhBluh 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give him e-mail address. On the other, how can you say you love your bf and still be looking for something better. What does "love" mean to you?
2007-02-07 19:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by mam24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not you may be stuck with "what if" for the rest of your life.
A friendly talk isn't cheating.
2007-02-07 19:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by Robert F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋