I have a friend who hasn't talke to me in 2 months. Now all of the sudden she says my b/f has cheated on me 5-6 times! My boy and I have been dating for 2 and a half years. She also claims he has been lieing through his teeth. She has no hard evidence just word of mouth, the mouth of her boyfriend that doesn't like mine. What should I do???
2007-02-07 10:57:18 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's just trying to break the two of you up.
If you know he's not cheating, then ignore them and tell them to get a life somewhere else.
2007-02-07 11:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. Why hasn't she talked to you in two months? When she told you this information, did she tell you with any bit of spite? You kind of have to look at it in the way it was presented. Also why does her boyfriend not like yours? It sounds like a lot of factors, but with something like this, you do have to look at all the reasons for this information.
I would imagine if this is remotely true....there would be at least one other person besides your own boyfriend who can coroborate this. Has your boyfriend acted suspiciously? Have you seen any behavior yourself that might point to him cheating on you? I wouldn't outright accuse him without something. You may want to talk to him about what you heard. You could also just think about what you would want to do about it. If he did, do you want to break up? If you wouldn't, you might want to let it go for now unless you see something odd. If you just got to know, ask him. Personally, I would probably bring it up to him. Unless I was sure it was garbage and didn't want him and the other guy getting in a fight.
2007-02-07 19:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your boyfriend about all this? If you have and he denies all of it, you have been with him long enough to know if he is telling you the truth or not! Maybe your Friend and her boyfriend just want to cause trouble. I would give him the benefit of the doubt, after all, there must be something between you, 21/2 yrs. is alot of time to be together.
2007-02-07 19:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by pam m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months is a long time. If yall hadnt talked for that long unless she had something important to say then she woulda kept on not talking. I would believe her. It might seem weird but people you havent talked to in months dont just walk up to you and lie outta their teeth. I would believe her and find out as much as possible
2007-02-07 19:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Calvin B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone will say they're rumors, and they may be, but don't just brush them off so easily... I went out with this guy who cheated on me the whole time (1 1/2 years).. people would tell me that he was, and his ex g/f who i hated even told me... and I would stupidly say "He wouldn't do that, I trust him".. well, he got abusive (another story) and we fought a lot and I broke up with him, and he admitted to cheating on me the entire time... and I wish I would have listened to everyone else.
2007-02-07 19:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're honestly worried about this "word of mouth",find evidence about it. I wouldn't take such a thing lightly,because contrary to popular belief at least 45%-65% of things said by word of mouth,have an ounce of truth to it.
Ask your boyfriend about it. See how he reacts,if he over-reacts about the situations blowing it out of proportions,then you should definitely watch his behavior,"excuses",etc .
2007-02-07 19:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you believe her after she's neglected you for months? What she is telling you is gossip.
If it were me, I would share this information with your boyfriend. In a..."can you believe this" kind of tone. Not in an accusatory tone. Let him know what she is saying and that you don't believe it. It helps if he is alert to anything that might cause a riff in your relationship.
2007-02-07 19:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly why i don't mix friends with personal relationships.
people will find anything to get back at someone they don't like.
who are you in a relationship with? your boyfriend?? or your friend and her boyfriend??
if she was really your friend she wouldn't have stopped talking to you, and if she cared about you she would have told you sooner.
i would calmly bring it up to your boyfriend, but in the end, it all comes down to who you trust more!!
i wish you good luck in handling this situation.
2007-02-07 19:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, but watch your boyfriend. You ex friend might be an idiot and feels like she has fuel to hurt you. But the she may have legitimate reason to bring this up to you.
2007-02-07 19:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Sharisse F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to rumors.. especially if the person she gets her information from hates ur boyfriend.. its probably a lie so dont worry about it unless u start to suspect hes cheating..
2007-02-07 19:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋