How do i let a very extremely shy guy know that I'm into him?
And if he really is so shy, how will I know that he likes me too?
I don't want to scare him off but I'm not used to dealing with guys who are shy. I've only dated outgoing guys who have ended up to be jerks but I really like this guy.
Please help answer my two questions and give me some advice!
2007-02-07 10:56:52 · 10 answers · asked by GCTA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you tell him you like him he is going to freak out inside. He won't really know how to react properly. It will be easy to read this the wrong way. He may fidget and act uncomfortable or even try and bail but that doesn't mean he doesn;t like you too. Remember, he is really shy and social awkward so his reaction will appear awkward as well. Don't let this deter you.
The best thing you can do is be friends for a bit first. Once he feels more comfortable with you it will be easier to tell him you like him and easier for him to let you know he likes you to. If you make a big move on him it might scare him off. Start with hugs when you see him and putting your arm on him. Let him get used to you touching him. Then when you feel comfortable tell him you really want to kiss him but you aren't sure if he wants you to. Tell him you like shy guys and that you are patient. Then go in for the kiss. If he kisses you back you are good to go. If not ask him if that made him uncomfortable. Ask him why he doesn't want to kiss. Any answer except "I'm sorry, I was surprised" or "I just want to wait a bit" means you should give up on him. But if he responds like either of these ways or if he kisses back then you got him.
Good luck.
2007-02-07 11:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by FinkDollah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I know boys are Sa'pose to be the ones. So if you do like him or interested. Go up and ask him. Well approach him when he is alone or approach and see if you can have a minute if he is with someone else. Feel you should have your friends with you. Close by that is. If you are worried about being rejected Then ask are you busy this Friday or Saturday? Thought we could go to the movies together. Ask on Thursday. Not before because it is too early and not after too late. . Have your number already written done to give to him. Be confident. If you are worried about his friends then try to catch him alone. Still have your friends close but not too close that he sees them. Make sure they are not making a big commotion. Maybe you are scared to tell your friends? I have been in that situation. So just take a deep breath and go right up to him. Yes we did go out. Remember one date does not say all or end all. Might take a few dates and talking to open him up. Yes go to the movies alone with him. Meet him there and see a movie he likes too. Always offer to pay your own way. Especially if you really like him. He may be embarrassed because he has no money. Hope I gave some insight?
2007-02-07 19:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start a conversation with him. with him being shy, he might have trouble keeping the conversation going so keep the questions open ended and do our best to keep it going, look t his body language and see if he touches his hair, if he touches his hair he is trying to look good for you. If he tries at all to keep the conversation going thats a sure sign he likes you back, in which case just ask him if he wants to go grab some coffee or something, If he says yes then he likes you, if he says no then he doesnt.
2007-02-07 19:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy, just make all the first moves. I love it when a girl is not shy at all, it breaks me from my shell. Don't be crazy though and start asking him a ton of questions, during the silence, try and just empty your mind and not fool with stray thoughts and amusement. High energy is the one thing that scares me from someone the most.
2007-02-07 19:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a shy guy and we care more about feeling and the way u r not by looks or what u have some take it slow start of with something u both like and take it slow from there don't be to strong on him and if he likes u he will start hangin around u more
2007-02-07 19:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by guys i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This one's pretty easy to figure out.
Have him over for drinks (if you do that) and play truth or dare.
This will encourage him to be a little risque and bold to whereas he normally would not do so. This may cause you to be a little more aggressive, too, but that's where the fun comes in.
Encourage him to let his inhibitions go for an hour or so.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 19:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you gatta use humor to lighten things
if he does a nervous laugh say "come on, theres nothing to be nervous about" try to "comfort" him
then proceed to be friends
2007-02-07 19:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mr_wall2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lick behind his ear
2007-02-07 18:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
best idea is talk to him --- and persevere if he likes you he will keep or try to keep the conversation going --- his body language will let you know if he does like you and he will know you like him as you are talking to him ---- best wishes
2007-02-07 19:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ure going to have to take the first step and they wont take hints, so your going to have to be very open and very very forward
2007-02-07 19:15:01 · answer #10 · answered by rabdcow72 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋