yesterday I asked if my fiance is cheating she admitted it?

Question

all the kids are not mine I love these kids but should I cheat on her back she treats me like crap but these kids lov me I want to leave but she wouldnt be able to handle these kids but it takes bad women like that to change a man I will never change My attitude is treat women like queens because thats what they deserve

Answer 1

Whatever you do, certainly don't cheat on her to get revenge.

Answer 2

Sorry for the terrible situation. I know that you are concerned for the children, but this is not a good situation. You have to think about what life will be like with her, and decide that you deserve better. Cheating on her is not the answer. Two wrongs don't make a right. If she treats you so bad then she doesn't feel the way you do, the only other option would be to tell her that you will leave unless she agrees to treat you better and be faithful to you. And tell her that IF she doesn't, you will leave. Mean what you say.

Answer 3

I don't think cheating on her would make you feel better. By the way, if she treats you like crap, why are you still there??? Children should not be the deciding factor in a relationship. Iv'e had my share of bad relationships where kids were involved, although they loved me and I loved them it didn't make my relationship any better.
And another thing, the only thing a "bad woman" can change about you is the trust and the way you feel about her personally.
Maybe you could break it off with her in a way so you could still see the kids. Good Luck.

Answer 4

What I think you should do is keep being a dad and a great guy. Yes, you should leave her, But, you should be there for them when ever they need you and let them know that you are not leaving because of them but becaus, the two of you can't get along any more. Don't let her change the way you think or treat other women who will come into your life. You along with others out there whether you are a guy or a girl you should never let anybody treat you like you are a nobody because we are all priceless.

Answer 5

I would say call the wedding and the engagement and everything off. There is no excuse for a cheating spouse. If you can't trust her now then how will you trust her throughout your marriage. You'll just get divorced when she cheats on you again and then you'll have wasted time and money and more money on something that could've been avoided easily. Plus Kids are kids. You might even be able to arrange some sort of friendship that allows you to see the kids

Answer 6

women are a mystery bro, never treat women like a queen cuz shell treat you like a servant. That doesnt mean treat her like crap either (which does work, but i dont condone it) . She is human you are human, no matter how clean she is, you cant wash her with water and drink that water (unless ur sick).

Cheating on her back aint gonna change a thing, just makes you less of a person. Tell her how u feel, if she doesnt make life easier.

PACK YOUR BAGS B4 its 2 late and she owns half of everything you got, The show married with children comes to mind.

Answer 7

Oh wow ....what a good man!!!

mmmm...I personally wouldn't think you deserve to be treated like that...I'd say do what you think is best for you obviously she doesnt put you first in any way so do what you think is right...that way you will never become the martir.....i dont think you should cheat on her because you should never go that low (PAYBACK).

Do what makes you happy and im proud of you saying that "My attitude is treat women like queens because thats what they deserve"

that is great and keep that attitude remember a box of chocolate has variety doesnt mean we are all the same.

Answer 8

she treats you like crap because she knows she can get away with doing it, because you have no back bone and won't stick up for yourself. i know you love her kids, but the minute she admitted to cheating on you...you should have left her ***. she cheats because she knows that you won't leave no matter what happens. if you love the kids that much, you should leave her, but still make visiting time for the kids. just explain to the kids that you and her can't live together because you don't get along, and fight all the time, and don't want the kids in the middle of it. if you really love the kids you will find a way to see them, but don't waste your life getting cheated on and treated like **** all the time. life is way to short to live life like that. get out while you can.
and i bet you'll surprise the hell out of her when you tell her you are leaving.

Answer 9

This woman doesn't sound like she deserves to be treated like a queen. She's not only unfaithful, she's unremorseful. She's taken someone who is kind to her and treated him disrespectfully. You don't deserve this. She doesn't deserve you.
It's too bad there are kids involved. These poor children are learning how to handle themselves in relationships and she's setting a terrible example.
I would drop her in a minute. You sound like you are a kind, faithful guy. Trust me, there are many women who would treat you with the respect you deserve. Good luck and I'm sorry about these children. They too, deserve better.

Answer 10

No, don't cheat on her. Don't lower yourself to her level. So sorry about those kids but you need to leave her. She will have to figure out what to do on her own. Find someone who deserves you because she sure doesn't!

P.S. Where did "all these kids" come from? Did they have the same dad, or was she telling you the story of her life through her children?

Answer 11

You are like the abuse wife, going back for more and more. She is cheating and that should end the relationship. Your reacting and have a liaison to spite her is not logical. Open the door, walk out and don't look back.

It is not your responsibility to handle the kids. And if you feel the kids are in danger, then call the local child protection agency (state or county) and anonymously report her for child endangerment.