we broke up a monthago bc we both go to diff colleges but they arent that far like 1 hr so he could work on school and swimming and he said he wanted to try after season but we havent talk since and season ends this weekend i've been going on dates with other boys but i still think about my ex and when i asked him if he still wanted to try later he got mad and said i already told you this we dated for almost 1&1/2 years and i just dont know what to do bc im worried that if i bring it up again he'll get upset and then never want to try again and i dont want him to think im dessperate or something. ahhh what should i do?
2007-02-07 10:32:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should get over him!
Go out with your friends, Have fun. Date other guys. Stop thinking about him.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 10:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to move on from this. It does seem that he has moved on. Not with a girl, but with his life. He is trying to work on school and swimming, which says that he doesnt need a distraction. If it takes an hour to go from one school to another, that means that he is guaranteed 2 hours taken away from his main objectives when he goes and sees you.
Of course you will still be thinking about him when you are out with other people. The break up is still fresh. Esp. since you have been together for as long as you two once were. This would be the time to get reaccquanted with yourself. Find out who you are without him. If you two do get back together you will be a stronger person for both you and your relationship. If you dont get back together, you will be a stronger person regardless of what happens. And that confidence will show to others...maybe a potential boyfriend, one that is more convenient to your life situation.
As for the him getting mad part. Ive been in his shoes before. He is just trying to sort things out. When my ex-gf of 4 years and I broke up, i was very confused about my feelings towards her and the relationship i just left. I needed time to think about it all. I ended up focusing on my schooling and job...similar to what he is doing.
I guess the bottom line is that you two need space right now. Give it more time and if you two were meant to be, then it will happen. If not, then you would have gotten a head start on moving on.
:)
2007-02-07 18:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Hawaii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sound of it, I would just remain friends, you are in college, make friends, focus on class, and work if needed. But hey once you two graduate and still are single and end up living near eachother once again, then hey see if there is something there. But right now, like I said, I would just leave it be, because if you keep asking him he might get frusterated and not want to talk because of stress and among other things.
2007-02-07 18:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by nickhawkins21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your self some time to heal. Break-ups burn for a little bit and take time to get over. Keep dating and seeing who else is out there. Don't be desperate. It is not attractive. Don't let your ex hold you back from dating someone else either. I truely believe there is a perfect match for all of us out there. Choose wisely and choose a good man who will love you for you. If you really really want him back, ignoring him is probably the best way. He will not be able to handle you not talking to him. Play hard to get. He wanted to break up, so make him work to get it back. Make him see what he lost. Until that time, go have fun girl! There are lots of good men out there.
2007-02-07 18:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up then it is for a reason. so look in different directions it may be for the both of you own good, there is a saying that goes like this " good better best never let it rest until the good is better and the better best."
2007-02-07 18:38:28 · answer #5 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club. Seriously, we have t-shirts (or we should have, anyway). This always happens and there are a few of us who are talking and starting our own like support group of sorts thru IM, so if u ever want to talk u can email me from this site and we'll chat, k?
2007-02-07 18:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mom Sparrow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont act despererate. he'll know he has you in the palm of his hand and thats not attractive. you always want what you cant have and just live your life date, go out. if its really meant to be he'll realize what a great girl he's lost and hell come back to you... but maybe you shouldnt take him back right away. let him suffer a little just like hes making you suffer.
2007-02-07 18:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by california 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy for me to say, hard for you to do, but keep doing what you're doing, date others, have fun w/ gf's keep busy, with school and going out, and if he is interested then he will pursue you. Time heals and feelings will change. You don't have to be in love, you can go have fun and be single. Find yourself, be happy with yourself, then you will find someone or they will find you. You are so young. breaking up is hard, I know first hand but life must go on, you can't hang your head and cry, you have to smile and go on with life
2007-02-07 18:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your studies in college. Improving your command of the English language will benefit you in your next relationship.
2007-02-07 18:35:42 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. try not to think about him. go out with other guys, I can guarantee he's not moping around thinking about you. He's out with other girls, of course. Plenty of fish in the sea, you will find a better guy who will want to be with you without having to "try".
2007-02-07 18:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋