I'm fed up today. I know somebody who I thought only liked me in a friend kind of way. He's a nice looking boy and sweet. I just liked him as a friend too though. He im-ed me a few days ago and just started saying all these really lovely things to me, like I was gorgeous and he finds me really attractive....it started making me feel more for him, like I would like to take further. I wish he never said anything to me because now he is just ignoring me, he doesn't im me back anynmore if I say Hi and logs off straght away! grr! He's made me feel all these things for him now that never even came into my head before and now I can't stop thinking about him. It's obvious he doesn't really like me or he wouldn't be ignoring me! men eh! how can I get him out of my head??
2007-02-07 10:24:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope I'm not a teenager, I'm 22. Which makes it worse, he should not be acting like a teenager lol
2007-02-07 10:31:03 · update #1
lmao Viki u cheered me up anyway! lol. This one doesn't have the creases in his trews, he's flippin gorgeous actually, lovely blue eyes, hmm...see here I go again! worra nob for making me feel this way! lol.
2007-02-07 11:18:37 · update #2
Yes a similar thing happened to me a few years ago when i was at college. I spent ages trying to make sense of this as it was so odd. Basically i think some guys pay you lots of attention and say things that they know will make you feel good about yourself, in hope that you want to hear more and then once you've reached this stage, they seem to go cold and enjoy all the reverse attention from the woman. It's kinda reverse psychology i guess. A few years ago i received lots of attention from this small, poor excuse for a man who i normally wouldn't have looked at twice (he was very effeminate and had creases ironed down the front of his jeans). Anyway, he bombarded me with nice emails, texted me saying he loved me, said things to me that really flattered my ego etc and made me feel good. It was as if he cleverly made me want him without me realising what was happening, if that makes sense. All of a sudden he just went cold with no explanation and blocked me from sending him emails and never answered my calls. Absolutely no reason for this whatsoever. I think men are from a different planet to be honest and i don't think there's such a thing as "the perfect marriage". I wonder if he still irons a crease into his jeans, lol.........
Hey, just try to forget about him the best you can, and move on. x
2007-02-07 11:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a great believer in Time and Deeds,if he is genuine then he will contact you again and be only too willing to prove to you that he genuine with his feelings for you.
However many men like to indulge in mind games and often will tell a woman whatever it is they think she wants to hear in order to get a date or very often I am sorry to say sex.
So knowing how men act,I would say play the waiting game,give him a chance to come back and prove how much he likes you,if he doesn't then he was only playing games to begin with but if on the other hand he really likes/fancies you and is just shy then by giving him a little time you will give him the opportunity to prove to you that his feelings are genuine.
Anyway you are young and have time on your hands,use it wisely and I hope it works out for you.
Good luck !
2007-02-07 18:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably didn't respond to his compliaments in the way he was expecting/hoping for, so now he's on the defensive. Men... sooo complicated! Why don't you call him or e-mail or something and tell him you were flattered and you feel the same.
Just one more thing, though... are you sure you don't just like him because he paid you a compliment? It's an easy trap to get in... you convince yourself he's the one because he likes you, but do you truely like him that way?
2007-02-07 18:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Kirralilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The trouble is it is very easy to fall in love, but can then take ages to trust someone again.
Dont worry about him, worry about you.
You must have dignity, pride and self respect. dont let any man take these things from you.
Be smart, be confident and let your character grow like a beautiful flower.
Good Luck. its his loss.
2007-02-07 18:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Into Home Cinema 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're a teenager.The same thing happened recently to my 16 year old daughter.Just ignore him back--he is not worthy of you if he is going to play these mind games!Good luck.
2007-02-07 18:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear it does sound like he was leading you on, or perhaps he is just testing the water so to speak, seeing if you are interested in him .....see how i goes and if he bothers to speak to you again then good , if not plenty more fish in the sea , good luck...
2007-02-07 18:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by auntpeakachoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave well alone it sounds like he is a numpty. Look elsewhere for happiness. Numpty is scottish for Not a full shilling etc.
2007-02-07 18:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actualy talk to him in person. he may really like you and gets shy or his friends found this out and are doing things with his im box?
2007-02-07 18:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by ubcool2ic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has sensitivity probs now that he knows u want him he may have got scared as what to do next
2007-02-07 18:50:47 · answer #9 · answered by izaakarm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do nothing! dont talk to him, ignore him back, give it a few days and you´ll have your answer, be strong, and do other things.
2007-02-07 18:47:22 · answer #10 · answered by nopi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋