Am I just a freind and what do i do?

Question

i like one of my guy freinds but i don't know how he feels. sometimes he really cares what i think and he always seems to come to me when he is scared. He also finds ways for me to spend time with him but never really has anything to say or do. Also whenever we go places and i don't hang out with him it is like he is having redrawl symptoms or something and everytime he sees me he has to talk to me but if i try and hang out with him sometimes it is like im not there. Now all of the sudden he is dating his ex again. she can't stand me!!! everytime she is with him and he talks to me she pupously makes him leave or acts like im not there.

Answer 1

Oi vei, why do you kids have to make things so complicated.

Lolz, jk.

Next time you get close with the guy give him a hug when he's upset and hold him close and get to know his bod a little. Don't over do it since he'll feel embarrassed if you do. Look him in the eye and move your head so as to put each other's heads on each other's shoulders. If he goes with it, then he likes you as a good friend. If he shifts around cuz he's unsure, then you gotta try it again next time and the time after until he gives you a straight answer.

But if he resists to the point that he doesn't know what to do, put your forehead on his forehead and let him make the next move. If he's really nervous, just brush his hair back, kiss him on the forehead, and let him handle you how he wants to. Support your own posture and stay close until he's ready to move in or let go.

If this happens twice, talk with him and tell him that you feel for him and that you're ok being with him. You don't have to mention love or like or compassion or passion or the other girl or anything else intimate. Just tell him that you think he's a nice guy and that if he wants to, he can hang out with you sometime.

The problem he has is twofold IF HE'S BECOME DEPENDENT UPON HIS EX. One, he's having trouble detaching himself from the other girl because he doesn't see anything else worthwhile. The more you pull him away, the less attracted he'll be to that girl. Just be careful not to pull too hard otherwise he'll snap away and stick to you like a magnet.

Two, he doesn't know whether or not you really really like him. Guys always get in trouble for pushing too hard on girls because girls have this tendency to go tell their friends or an adult about what he's doing. We have to deal with this stupid beartrap all of our lives and there's no two ways of going about it besides just testing it over and over with greater and greater pressure, hoping we can get the lure without getting snared. If you really really like this guy, you have to show him that you trust him one way or another or else he'll never go out with you.

If he isn't dependent upon his ex, don't push it at all. Easiest way to figure this out is if he seems unreasonably upset over something that's impossible to figure out. It doesn't matter what he's upset about, he's looking to his ex because he needs someone to lean on. If he isn't upset, then just let'em be. Another trap guys hate is when one girl hits on us while we're going out with someone. We dunno if the two girls are associated as friends or foes or even if they're associated at all, so you'll just end up making it a mess.

Best of luck and hope things work out.