I live in Ohio and she lives in Tenessee. I have'nt talked to her in 2 years. I'am starting to miss, She critizes me alot. I have changed since I've seen her I'am scared she will just be all bitchy. So should I visit her somthing. (I'am 19)
2007-02-07 10:22:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I knew someone would ask me why it was in the singles and dating catagory. I screwed up on the catagory thing.
2007-02-07 10:27:38 · update #1
Go visit her! she is your mom and even if she critizes you ; you still need to see her. moms and daughters hardly ever see eye to eye...but sometimes you need to bite the bullet and just give in...but dont give in to what you believe in...you say you have changed. well show her..if she still critizes then break it down to her.."this is my life and i will live it the way i think is best..either you can be a part of it ( which i want so dearly) or i can walk out this door and you wont have to see me again." it takes two to build back a mother/daughter rela...so give her the chance to decide what she wants to do...eventually she will come around if she dont right away...she will always love you but you have to show her you wont give up on trying to build that rela back. GO FOR IT!!!
2007-02-07 10:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by hotthuney4unow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea I think that you should def. visit her especially since it's been two years. Plus I'm pretty sure she misses you also. At the moment I am 19 and it's actually now that I am getting close with my mother. For the past few years, I really didn't get along with her and I didn't feel like I could talk to her because everytime i would try she would kind of push me away or criticize me on other things. I don't know, I got use to it, so I just didn't care anymore. Then she started trying to form a bond with me. At first I was afraid because I wasn't comfortable but then I realized that she was trying ot make things right. All I have to say is that regardless of what has happened between you guys, she will always be your mother. Another thing, communication is key, tell her how you feel and how it affects you when she criticizes you. I Hope this help and good luck.
2007-02-07 18:29:41 · answer #2 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her first over the phone.This will give u an idea on how she is going to act towards u. You have to remember that u are 19 now.Not 17.You have had 2 years to grow and discover yourself.So go see her and be confident.Don't argue with her.If she starts something then just let her know u didn't come to visit her to argue.That makes u the better person.I had a mother like that so I wish u all the luck.
2007-02-07 18:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't run right now to visit, i think maybe you ought to write her a letter and give her some time to think about things you put in the letter and about the past history. Then say in 2 weeks give her a call on the phone and test the waters.
Or you can find out quickly by giving her a call on the phone tonight or tomorrow. But don't expect alot. Be prepared for some form of criticism. It's justified given you left two years ago and you were under 18 and haven't talked to her in that length of time.
2007-02-07 18:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That must hurt. But I think if you really miss your mom and wish she'd stop acting the way she does to you, you should definitely call her up and talk to her first a few times, then come over for a visit. If the relationship isn't mended by then, and if she still continues acting rude to you, just say, "Hey, I tried Mom. I'd really like to start a new relationship with you, but if you don't want that, then there's nothing I can do." And go back to Ohio. Maybe try again later. Good luck babe :)
2007-02-07 18:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out with phone calls and/or letters. You can get some of the uncomfortable stuff out of the way and then if and when you go see her then you can talk about other issues. She may be missing you just as much and not sure if she should contact you or not. Be brave, break the ice and take that first step. Just send her a card and let her know that you are thinking about her. Your mom won't be around forever. It is time to mend fences so that you can spend time with your mom while you still can,
2007-02-07 18:28:02 · answer #6 · answered by Weezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let's see it would help if you explained the root of the trouble
but always remember you only have one mom and if something bad were to happen wouldn't you feel better knowing you were big enough to make every attempt to fix what happened in the past take the chance her life may not have been that good either try being her friend
2007-02-07 18:28:37 · answer #7 · answered by oct2855 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont know unless you try. Perhaps she misses you to.. my advice is to give her a call. Let her know that the past is the past and you want to start fresh.
If she still is mean to you at least you know. Give your mother a call. Good luck
2007-02-07 18:25:24 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this question in the Singles and Dating Category?
2007-02-07 18:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's important for you to have some sort of relaltionship with your mother. i c how it'd b hard 4 u since ur not close but i think u shud try it. u sed u changed..maybe 4 the better in her eyes.
good luck!!
2007-02-07 18:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by mzsprouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋