Should I ask him out?

Question

I have recently become interested in a colleague who is a Manager of a department I only occassionaly come into contact with. We got closer after a conversation which resulted in us comparing reasons for why we ended our last relationships - turns out we both left because we simply fell out of love and it didn't feel right anymore. Over the past few weeks we have come into contact more than usual due to a project I am assisting on, but this will only be for a couple more weeks. On these occassions we talk work then quickly move onto other things, which always feels nice and always involves us smiling, laughing and (I can only speak for myself here) feeling as though I want to spend hours finding out more about him. I am not 100% confident he sees me in the same light, although twice now when we've parted he'd come very close - almost kissing. I would love to spend time with him, but how do I approach the subject? Please advise, as I am so unconfident about the next step.

Answer 1

Hey! Try being honest with him. It is a great way to start a relationship. First build up you confidence, but still show that you are a little nervous( it shows that you don't do this often and it is cute). Tell him what you like about y'all friendship like the same interest or his passion for something. Let him know that you "like that in man" and u think that you like him and wonder if he feels the same.
or You could just write him a note saying if you want to go out with me circle YES.
do not have sex with him before the 3 month point because you guys work together. In 3 months or more you can start to see who he really is if you are paying attention and also you want him to respect you. Who want to be disrespected on the Job.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong in asking him out to something you both enjoy -- a movie, or concert, or whatever.

Remember, however, that you are colleagues at work, and if your personal relationship deepens it should not affect (i) your work, (ii) your professional relationship. There's a lot of truth in the statement: Business and pleasure don't go hand in hand. I speak from personal experience. (I was ticked off a long time ago by my boss for my interest in a woman colleague. And we were not in any relationship whatsoever. Our friendship was very close, but purely platonic.)

I know of a woman (I met her on Yahoo Answers, and we correspond regularly by email) who made the mistake of getting into a full-fledged sexual relationship with her colleague, who was indiscreet enough to let his tongue wag all over the office on her performance (or rather lack of it) in bed. The only course open to her was to resign her job within the week and get away from the acute embarrassment and humiliation. She was in trauma about it for a long time.

Please don't misunderstand me. I'm not insinuating that you might be an inadequate sexual partner. But you do need to assure yourself that he's the type who'll keep your private matters private, whatever they may be. And, young lady, the same thing goes for you too.

I'd say proceed with caution, but don't let things go too far until you are really, really comfortable about him.

Answer 3

If you don't make the jump you'll never know will you? I'm with my lovely gf 15 months now, i love her to bits.I thank my lucky stars every night for this angel who's chosen to be with me!
She was going back to the US for like 6 weeks as part of her job.I knew i couldn't last the distance without making a move.So i made the leap of faith & asked her out before she went.The rest, as they say is history.
Make a move, you never know what's around the corner! Good luck!

Answer 4

Just ask him how he would feel if a girl asked him out. Then go from there with what to next. Even though my user name is as you readit. I am a srtait male. If a lady came up to me and asked me out I would not find it to forward. Some times guys hold back because of reason not just because they don't want to go out with some one. So then I do not find it inapropriate for a lady you ask a man.It does not meen you would be paying for the perons night out with you. He more than likely would offer to at least py his own way if you did go out together. If he does not than he might be one to stay away from. Just use coman sence if yiou do ak him out.

Answer 5

With work romances the thing to think about would be how would you feel if you had a romance then broke up. Would you want to face him every day or would you have to change your job. Your heart will tell you. Best wishes.

Answer 6

nicely, i in my opinion imagine that females ought to from time to time ask boys out, in basic terms reason i'm a guy and dont have the middle to ask them out myself. yet i imagine why countless the lads are worried about asking is about what unusual rumours will be round once he asks. from time to time it helps if the lady asks, it is going to offer the boy a touch vanity.

Answer 7

Hey it sounds like he is interested in you,
make that move and good luck x

Answer 8

If you know what you have planned for yourself, ask him to come along. That way you get to know each other more intimately.

Answer 9

hey you only live once go for it.you seem like a great person so he would be very lucky...... good luck

Answer 10

Take a shot of whisky and go for it.