My little girl got a new boyfriend but shes only 11. What if she gets hurt? What do I do shes my first child and I dont know what to do.
2007-02-07 10:19:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Just be there for her. We all have a "first true love".
2007-02-07 10:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She may get hurt or else she may just let it fizzle. Young kids sometimes have (and like) the drama of breaking up; some just lose interest. Either way, it won't be any huge deal.
Since she's eleven, she shouldn't be out with him anyway because kids that age shouldn't be out at night; and if she's spending time with him other than in school keep her in or else put her in an activity so she won't be out after school, hanging out with a boyfriend. She's too young.
When kids that age have boyfriends it should be limited to school time, maybe school activities, e.mails and the telephone. Set the rules, and remember that "love" at that age is usually so superficial even the people involved now how meaningless it is. If she's, by any chance, a kid who isn't sharp enough to realize how superficial things are between a couple of eleven-year-olds, all the more reason to set the rules and set limitations on her free time.
2007-02-08 00:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have "The Talk" now if you haven't already!
If have had the talk than do it again but try to be less mom and more girlfriend. Talk about the topic often....not just once.
Kids will experiment and there's nothing sort of locking them in the basement that you can do about it. The more she understands from talking to you the less she need to figure out on her own.
If she's comfortable coming to you with her problems than it's less likely she come home with an unpleasant surprise.
The most important thing to remember is to not yell at her or talk down to her....she will only rebel. Treat her like a responsible young woman and she'll act like one.
If you don't think the talk worked and you're still concerned buy some condoms for her and get her on the pill.
2007-02-07 21:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah everyone looks at 11 as way to young, but this is play ground crush. You will know when it is getting serious as your child gets older and what to watch for so they don't make wrong decisions or feel pressured into things they really are not ready for. But for now, let her know she can come to you for anything. Start building that trust. Let her have her crush and little heart break it will help her as she grows. Now if this kid is at least two years older then I would put my foot down. But also remember to never under estimate your child these days you have 12 and 13 year olds getting pregnant, but you should be able to judge by your childs maturity level. Stand by her side.
2007-02-08 03:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by butterflyangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 11, she should not be going on any dates. All activities should be group activities and monitored by adults.
However, it's perfectly normal for kids to start pairing off at that age. I remember at the age of 11 and 12, boys we liked would ask us girls to "go with them," in other words, be linked as a couple in school. We never even kissed or went on dates or anything, it was just a school social thing.
You can't protect he forever from being hurt. But you can be there for her when she does get hurt. Best wishes.
2007-02-08 10:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she should not be allowed to have a boyfriend at 11. Sheesh..I wasn't allowed to have one until I was 16. I think that this is one of the reasons that kids get knocked up at 14.
Of coarse she is going to get hurt. They aren't getting married and she is only 11. If you are going to allow her to date, then just be there for her when she needs to cry.
2007-02-07 19:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by lc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At different ages and stages "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" mean different things...
If you are comfortable with her having the boyfriend openly I would explain what is apprpriate between her and her newly found guy.
I would also explain about how feelings can hurt someone, even as boyfriend and girlfriend.
-they may blossom and be best buddies
- they might have a fight and not talk
-worst case they might not talk at all again and spread bad things about eachother....
In anycase. Make sure she is strong willed and can handle doing this sorta thing and that it stays appropriate.
2007-02-07 18:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is too young to be thinkin about boys tell her she can't have a boyfriend until she isa least 15 or 16
2007-02-07 18:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mommie of 3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother there is nothing you can do you have have to let her know that you are there if she ever wants to talk about anything and that you are always on her side no matter what but when it comes to boys your on the outside looking in there are many things we can hold our kids hands though but this is not one of them
2007-02-07 18:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guarantee she will get hurt. She is going to have lot's of boyfriends in her life. You just need to be there and hold her when she cries and soon she will be on to a whole new relationship
2007-02-08 05:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just a school yard fling. Just talk to her honestly about it. Don't worry about it - it will run it's course...there will be tons of boys in her future...you just need to let her know that she can always be hionest with you about her love life.
2007-02-07 18:29:16 · answer #11 · answered by tx girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋