There's this friend of a friend i've been seeing. I knew he was into me the moment we met through the friend, he couldn't take his eyes off me or stop talking to me. So I thought if I saw him enough, he'd get over me. That didn't work, so I dragged him through art galleries for four hours and shopping for six hours and watching movies like Marie Antoinette. He's still standing, now he desperately wants to go bf/gf. He claims he's never had a girlfriend or been attracted to other girls (probably an overstatement). I have strongish feelings for him (more than a friend), but I'm not attracted to him physically and can't see anything seriously perminent developing.
I'm really attracted to this gorgeous other guy. Last time he said he wasn't into me, now I don't know whats happening. But I know if I was given the opportunity, I'd run off with him in a second.
Should I go out with the first guy knowing that push-came-to-shove I'd leave him heartbroken? I don't want to hurt him...
2007-02-07 10:06:27 · 11 answers · asked by JDA 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with both guys, but yourself most importantly. Although if he doesn't care and you just want to make him happy you could always give it up to him anyway.
2007-02-07 10:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Click 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do him this disservice. You have already encouraged him by spending all this time with him. If he is infatuated with you, the last thing you should have done was give him attention. What's done is done, so explain to him that although he is a nice friend, you are not attracted to him, and leave it at that. He will get over you, and at some point, move on to someone who truly cares for him.
2007-02-07 10:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to make a commitment with someone you wouldnt be committed to? It would pretty much suck for you and him if the whole time you guys are together your just sitting around anticipating for some other hot guy to come your way. Eventually it will happen, you are going to come accross a hot guy, or 2, so why not just wait for that hot guy to commit too? Good Luck
2007-02-07 10:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, especially if you know that you would probably cheat. Save both of you guys the headache and the heartache. Oh yea, don't waste your time on the other guy. If he wasn't interested in you the first time what's different now. Be smart and safe.
2007-02-07 10:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go out with a guy if you knew that you would cheat on him. You wouldn't want a guy to do that to you. Did you learn anything from the quote, " Treat others the way you would want to be treated!" ?
2007-02-07 10:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something very contradictory in your closing remark: "..if push-came-to-shove I'd leave him heartbroken. I don't want to hurt him."
Which is it? You'll break his heart or you wont hurt him?
2007-02-07 10:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him if you like him, I doubt the other guy will come around. If he does eventually, then break up with the guy and take the one you like.
2007-02-07 10:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by TheBigCheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not bothering to read through your whole script, I say the following: if you are not in a committed realtionship, then how can it be cheating? Case Closed.
2007-02-07 10:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by smart azz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont want to hurt him and are not attracted to him then DONT date him. Thats not fair to you or him.
2007-02-07 10:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by gomorrah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget both
2007-02-07 10:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by chad.cheney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋