My b/f's mom thinks that she is trying to make her boss feel good by making my son, who is one years old, believe that our boss & his wife is his grandma & grandpa, when there is no relation to me with the boss or the wife. Is this right for her to have her grandson think our boss is his grandpa especially since this only a temporary job. I told my b/f about it and he thinks that it is wrong for his mom to refer our boss as grandpa, since my son has a biological grandpa who is my son's dad's dad. And is it my place to tell her what she is doind is wrong or should my b/f be the one to tell her? Because everytime I tell her something she is doing wrong with my son she gets offended and hurt. She is a good person, but I think she is hurting herself and her grandson because he doesn't see her as grandma but as "babci" which means grandma in Polish, but my son doesn't know that because we call just her grandma and he doesn't know "babci" means that. Can someone please help me out?
2007-02-07 10:04:03 · 5 answers · asked by Rachel C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell her to get her nose out. That's YOUR child not hers. She had her chance at bringing up a child and she did but now it's YOUR turn and she shouldn't be interferring.
Just say to her something like... 'With all due respect ... babci... this is my child and I would like to choose who he refers to as Grandma and Grandpa.'
2007-02-07 10:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Natz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any harm done. The child is only 1 year old. When he gets old enough to know what a grandpa and grandma are, you can explain that the Boss (if he's still in the child's life) isn't really his grandpa, but he just likes to be called grandpa. What's the big deal? I've known several kids that, for one reason or another, called somebody grandma who wasn't related.
By the way, it's your choice, not your boyfriend's, unless he is your child's father.
2007-02-07 10:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely appropriate that YOU and your boyfriend decide who your son calls grandma and grandpa. If you don't have a close relationship with her, I would let the boyfriend tell her. If he doesn't, and it really bothers you, say something to her about it. Just be nice, and of course respectful.
2007-02-07 10:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that clearly was wrong of her to do so . Now your son will associate everybody like this as grandpa and grandma. You need to tell her that !
2007-02-07 10:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the kids mom!! Grandma or not whatever you say goes. And she should respect that. So don't feel bad at all set the rules. And being the mom you can change them at anytime.
2007-02-07 10:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her kindly to mind her business.
2007-02-07 10:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by JNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋