My family is religious and baptist and don't swear, drink, etc. but my fiance's friends like to party how do I handle this?
2007-02-07 09:59:47 · 31 answers · asked by hawaiiansun_82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
everyone just has to make the most of it to get along and accept eachother for who they are
2007-02-07 10:02:05 · answer #1 · answered by bannantynegirl 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Serve only a limited amount of alcohol (say, one or two bottles of wine per table). You can instruct the servers to not offer alcohol to tables number 1, 2, and 3 (whichever your family is sitting at).
Do not have an open bar - have a regular bar so that guests have to pay for their extra drinks if they want to "party" more. This will cut down on how drunk they get during the reception. Or you could just not have a bar at all, but schedule an "after-party" at a local bar so that after the reception the real party people can continue boozing and living it up, without offending the sensibilites of your more teetotaling relatives.
2007-02-07 18:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither my fiance or I drink that much, so this subject was a no brainer for me. I am having a dry reception (also because it is going to be at a church). I do however plan to go out afterwards with some friends and get a few drinks, since the reception will end around 10pm and we won't be leaving for our honeymoon for a few days anyway. It doesn't matter what your family or what his family wants. It matters what you and your fiance want. If they don't like it, they can drink before or after (just kidding).
2007-02-07 18:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that his family and friends would respect your family's beliefs and not drink at the reception.
I am in the same situation. Well, not with his family, but his friends have asked if there will be alcohol at the reception and I have told them no because of the same reasons (family is religious and doesn't drink).
It is your and your fiance's wedding.... NO ONE ELSE'S! If those are your wishes, they should respect them. Your fiance's family and friends can go to one wedding and reception without drinking....... can't they?
2007-02-07 18:53:18 · answer #4 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is merely a call for the family that is actually paying for the reception. If it is your family you can explain the situation and just ask if they keep the alcohol on the "lite" side with no hard booze. If it is you and your fiance who are pitching in the money for the festivities then you can consider the same approach. If your intended's family are non-drinkers then they don't have to drink and certainly they have the choice of avoiding any obviousl drunks or even leaving should they feel out of place. Good question.
2007-02-07 18:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by wonderful1 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not have any alcohol at your reception out of respect for your Family. After the Wedding, if your Fiance's friends and Family wants to drink, they can go to a bar. Do not let them ruin your reception with their drunkenness.
A friend of mine was in the same situation, and she called off the booze! Lol There was no cussing, no drinking and everyone behaved!
2007-02-07 18:21:12 · answer #6 · answered by Cricket 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is always a hard one. I know growing up in the South, this comes up a lot with Southern Batptists. It really comes down to your preference and what you want for your wedding. Your best bet is to offer minimal alcohol, maybe wine and Beer only. This way they can't get too out of control, but your family has to understand that not everyone has the same beliefs. Good Luck. I know it is hard.
Another idea is have an early afternoon reception, so you don't have to worry about that at all, and it is usually cheaper.
2007-02-07 18:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by myview 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go with you and your fiance feel is good!! I can uunderstand what you are going tthrough!! If you want to have an open bar have one. My family are not just reiligous most of them are Ministers, Pastors and Bishops and When the dance floor open the y excuses themselves from the reception like the officiant!! You have to be comfortable with whatever decision you make!! Because you have alcohol at your reception does not make you less reilgious!! Jesus turn the water into wine at a wedding!!! Enjoy yourself!!! It is my prayer that you only go this way once!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-07 19:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing with my wedding, and the way I see it is, you wouldn't shelter your family at a restaraunt where people were drinking, right? It's no different at the reception.
My fiance is purchasing the alcohol since his side of the family drinks, and I feel that everyone will just need to respect the others decision, whether it be to enjoy a drink, or abstain from it.
2007-02-07 19:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by jaye 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Two things first of all:
Hold a late afternoon 3.30pm reception for your family and then invite the drinkers and such after 7pm.
second: I would say that it's your special day, so tell your family not to be too shocked by any behaviour they might see and remind them that it's not a reflection on the morals of values of your fiancé, and tell your friends and fiancés friends to respect your wishes and drink in moderation.
At the end of the day, it's not up to you to control everyone's behaviour and you can't change how people feel. The whole day is for nothing if you don't find a way to enjoy yourself and not worry about others so much as you are the most important person there.
2007-02-07 18:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by How many questions can there be? 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Just see how things work out if its the first time the families meet each other i would think that both familes would want to be on their best behavior. Good luck with that, i cant even imagine when I have to do this with my and bfs family...total chaos
2007-02-07 18:13:30 · answer #11 · answered by msX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋