My boyfriend & I will be going out for 5 years when we get married at the age of 20&21 is it viewed positivly?

Question

we are currently 18 & 19. We plan on having a year engagement and continue going to a University. My plan is to get my masters in Business Econ and my boyfriend plans to go for his PHD in Psych. My boyfriend has a great job that will lead to a great career and we can afford to live on our own. I just want to know what people think about the situation, If we are viewed as too young, or fine to continue with our plans of getting married.

Here is to fix some things people were confused about. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years currently. Also, I'm asking just to see what you/society thinks, not because I am unsure, or scared if I should do it. Thanks for everyone's opinions!

Answer 1

Continue, your not to young and you have been together for a long time.

Answer 2

My first reaction would be "what's your hurry?" The idea of marriage is that you will spend the rest of your life together - so why not wait a little while? Getting married at 20/21 is not necessarily a bad thing, but I can speak from experience that people grow a lot between the age of 18 and 22 - there are a lot of experiences to be had in this time. Ideally you and your boyfriend will go through this period and grow together. There is no magic age that makes things better, but if you aren't sure (like asking this question), then it might not be the right time - when its right, you know it!

You should really talk to family and friends whose opinion you respect. These people have your best interests in mind and will hopefully be honest with you. Listen to what they have to say and don't be offended if they recommend waiting. Remember you don't have to take any body's advice, but keep an open mind as well.

Answer 3

I am a current college student and have been with my fiance for 3 years. We will be getting married both when we are 20 (a few months before we turn 21). I don't think we are too young, as long as you KNOW you WILL finish college. Our engagement will be a total of 18 months before our wedding. It is a super long engagement from experience, but I am glad I waited. I don't think the two of you will be too young. Keep going with your plans. It sounds like you have alot of things figured out already and sound mature enough to handle the married life. I say go for it!

Congratulations and Good Luck!

Answer 4

You come over sensible and your plans could certainly work out. People seem to be marrying older nowadays but that doesn't mean a younger marriage won't work. Being at university for at least another year seems a good idea as you will have had plenty of opportunity timewise to all see the social side of university and understand what you would be missing if married. Running a home, organising meals, shopping budgeting etc will all have to be done whilst studying (I imagine you are living at home or student accommodation at present?) and this can put a strain on any relationship. If you have thought it all through and he is definitely 'the one' then I send all my best wishes to you both.

Answer 5

I would say that 20 and 21 is a little young to get married.
In your early twenties your personality and opinions change so much, it can sometimes be hard to stay in a relationship.
That being said, even though we are not married yet, I have been with my boyfriend for seven years. I was only 17 when we met.
At first we were just happy to be dating, but now, at 25, I know that I will spend the rest of my life with him.

Answer 6

First off from experience take your time. I met my ex husband when I was 16 at 18 I was engaged and 20 I was married. Thats how I thought it was suppose to be we were together for 4 years and engaged for 2. We are divorced now. We grew up and apart. Take it slow and make sure this is what you want. I was married for 3.5 years and one day I woke up and thought about everything that was going on around me and said you know what this isn't what I want. I don't have that feeling anymore. And let me tell you its easy to get married but its a bich to get a divorce.. As long as you are over 18 you can make your own decision, just think about it, everyone is different.

Answer 7

My opinion is that you and your boyfriend figure out what's best for you and stick with that. Everyone has an opinion on marriage, yet the divorce rate in this country is ridiculously high. If you and your boyfriend love each other and want to spend the rest of your lives together, than just stick with your plan and do what you want to do. My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years (since we were 18) and plan to get married this March. Many people have asked us what we've been waiting on. We've simply been doing what we felt was best and decided to get married when we want to, not when everyone else told us to. I'm sure if the two of you stick to what's best for the two of you, your relationship will be just fine. The two of you will enjoy many happy years together.

Answer 8

Well, all I can say is finish school first. Finish your own plans and then get married. Don't let yourself feel rushed, if you guys are meant to stay together there is no reason you can't wait. I personally feel that if I had gotten married when I was that young I would have been completely unprepared. I thought I was mature, but looking back now I realize I still had a lot of growing up to do. I am now in my mid-twenties and my fiance is in his late twenties. Although people do mature at different rates, there is nothing wrong with waiting.

Answer 9

Hi there is nothing wrong with it im getting married this year and im we will both be 20 so there is nothing wrong with it. You will get people butting there nose in but dont listen to them its not there lfie the are living so just as long as its what you both want then who care what people think. Your old enough so thats all that matters. I was like you worried what people will think and was nearly not going to get married as it felt like i was doing something wrong because of people views and opinions, but my fiance convinced and parents convinced me its about us to and dont care or listen to anyone else. At the end of the day some people will say there piece and thats it. Just stand by your guns and fire back saying because we want to.
On Yahoo Answers you will probably get people saying no its too young have fun first blah blah blah.
The way i see it some men and women have respect for themselves and dont want to sleep with person to person to find the right one if they know they have find the right person and get a name as a slapper. So just shrug it of and start planning your vig day. If you need any advice about the wedding them you can always email me as im fresh to it all as im getting married this year.
If you too love each other no matter what then thats all that matters, You have it all sorted and its the beginning of you new lives together. My let some people who cant keep there big gobs shut ruin what you both had planned,

Hold you heaf high girl and be proud and never listen to anyone saying you too young, or it wont work out. Yes people have bad experiances but its there own lives they could of worked it out etc.

Answer 10

I got married at 19. My husband was 23. He's 26 now, I'm almost 22. We've been together 7 years. We had our plans, and currently following what we both want to do do with our lives. It can work. Just be patient about it. It all comes in time. Best Of Luck to you!

Answer 11

Well probably not what you want to hear but you are young and you have your whole life in front of you.It is obvious that you love each other else you wouldn't have stayed together. I would say you would do better to stay as you are for now and carry out your plans, get your degrees then think of marriage. I say this because there are lots of commitments in marriage and you do better without the extra stress, your young you have loads of time. I hope that helps, anyway Best of Luck.