i was married and divorced quickly when i was younger. i changed my name and kept it after my divorce. most people know me by my newer last name but my childhood/hometown friends know me by my maiden name and never knew i made that stupid mistake. i'd rather not explain it either to anybody. can i address the invitations using the name they know me by but leave the name out of everything on that day? any ideas?
2007-02-07 09:28:34 · 11 answers · asked by Susan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I haven't had the experience where you have to state your "full name" during the vows. I've always heard - "I, First name," or I, "first and middle name" ---
Thinking about the invitations - how formal are they? Are YOU doing the inviting or are your parents? Maybe you could write
Mr & Mrs John Smith invite you to the wedding of their daughter,
Mary Jane
to
Harry T. Public.
OR
If you and your fiance are doing the inviting, then something like
Mary Jane and John invite you to our wedding on...
After you are married - you are introduced as "Mary Jane Public" and your former last name(s) aren't mentioned.
Hope that made sense and helped.
2007-02-07 09:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by cousin317 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. During the ceremony the officiant/ priest has to ask your fiance whether he takes you (full legal name as of right now) so your guests will hear your legal last name. You dont have to explain anything to anyone and if they ask say "dont ask about it. I dont want to discuss it". It is NONE of their business.
On the invitations if you are afraid they wont know who you are list BOTH your maiden last name and your LEGAL last name like for example:
You are invited to the wedding of:
Jane Marie Doe Thompson
Doe= your maiden name
Thompson= your ex husbands last name, legal name
It would probably be too expensive to have 2 separate invitations made up. During the ceremony they cant just use your first name so all your guests will find out the truth anyway. Dont worry about it. You cant avoid it but you dont have to discuss it with anyone.
2007-02-07 11:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea... I didn't know you HAD to announce your last name at the wedding, except for the part where the officiant asks you "will you, so-and-so (First Middle Last Name) take so and so to be your husband/wife". This part they will have to use your real name for, but you don't have to have your name anywhere else. You can address the invitations any way you want.
2007-02-07 09:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it can be done..
..(assuming your name's Jane Smith and youre marrying John Tucker but you want to use the name Jane Doe)
The invitation can say Youre invited to the wedding of the future John Tucker and Jane Tucker on blah blah day .. and yadda yadda yadda
Have the minister refer to both of you by first names only... by the time you exchange vows your last name would have already changed and you'll be good.
2007-02-07 10:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can do 2 sets of invitations, and on the day itself, for printed material, you could put your new name to be on everything ("thank you for celebrating the union of the new Mr. & Mrs. Smith"), and for vows, you could use your first names. My fiance & I are getting hitched in March, and the minister is just going to use our first names during the ceremony.
2007-02-07 09:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's complicated...you can put that your parents Mr and Mrs "whatever your maiden name is" request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter (and then list only your first and middle names) to your fiance (first middle and last name). I have seen this done before and it looks fine. I hope I'm not being too confusing.
2007-02-07 09:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could print separate invitations for each group using the appropriate name.
2007-02-07 09:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what ever you want. (its your wedding) But to tell you the truth it would be like starting your new life with a lie. You made a mistake. Big deal. We all have made them! If they are your friends they would not care about your past situation.
2007-02-07 09:38:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you do your vows you will have to say your full name and so will your hubby to be. so just print your name that you have legally and if people have Q's then just simple state it was a past mistake and let it be at that.. if they care they will let it be and nothing more will be said we all make mistake including your friends...just remember this and you'll be OK
2007-02-07 09:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by funluvcaring 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutley... just put your first name... i doubt anyone waould say anything. and you're gonna change your name anyways so you'll be... "mrs. whatever your husbands name is." I say it should be no problem!!
2007-02-13 11:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋