I need some advice and help.After having been on one date in the last 2 months, I was seriously hit back with some bad news.My confidence in dating has dropped and I dont know how I would go about starting back up?
Please dont laugh or give me insults.I am a nice guy but really shy about this sort of stuff.Any pointers in getting back out there would be much help.
2007-02-07 09:27:52 · 13 answers · asked by medic_man 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, it went really well and we where texting each other for about 2 weeks and then she just turned around out of the blue and said she has started seeing someone else.
2007-02-07 09:35:27 · update #1
I don't know what happened or what it is that you are going throu right now but I am really confused..anyways I can tell you this much...Try to have fun with your closest friends and take care about yourself...Im sure that if you are a nice guy you probably have nice friends that appreciate you and love you for who you are....don't rush into dating to find a true love...I don't beleive in dating but this is just my personal opinion...Love will come to you in the least expected place and time...for now start loving yourself and go out there and have fun...
Hope this helps...
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2007-02-07 09:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by karaya6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound stupid because i'm a girl, but my best confidence booster was always a day to myself. Go get a massage, get a new haircut, and a new outfit(and no you don't have to be a metrosexual to pamper yourself). Just take a day to do what you want, don't worry about anything else in the world except you and having an awsome day. If you spend time on yourself, you will feel more confident, re-energized, and ready to face dating agian. Dating is a long process, there are "many fish in the sea" and it takes a while to find the right one. Keep that in mind. The goal of dating is to find a life mate. Take your time and enjoy being able to explore : )
2007-02-07 09:47:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lottalove 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must try and mix with the opposite sex and learn to chat and behave normally without any dating involved. Can you join a gym or club, a lot of people are shy there is nothing wrong with that, do not take it so personally that the girl got another boyfriend there will be plenty more girls about for you. Good luck to you you sound a good guy hope you find a lovely girlfriend.
2007-02-07 10:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spend more time with women in a 'friends' way. At work maybe or in groups. Once you feel more comfortable around them you might feel more confident at moving on. You don't have to stay trapped in how you feel now. Put the past behind you and imagine what sort of guy you want to be. Then be him.
2007-02-07 09:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by Basket-santa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your self time to heal. Don't be so hard on yourself sometimes life hits you with a right hoOK then a left. Have you been sleeping and eating ok? You might be depressed it might help to talk to a teacher or guidance councilor that you trust. It sounds like your going though a tough time in your life right now but it will get better. If you need to talk to someone please do it
2007-02-07 09:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Bruce B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been on a date in about 10 months. Of course I haven't been trying either. Whatever set you back needs your attention. See where you were before it and try and reclaim that which you lost. Of course, you didn't divulge what the bad news was and that was your choice.
2007-02-07 09:36:37 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out enjoy yourself mate try not to worry about women they will come to you if you are relaxed and that will get your confidence back up quickly.
Before i was married I had a few knocks but you need to try get on with it good luck mate
2007-02-07 13:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to answer your question better, what do you mean by "Bad News" ? As in she rejected you and said no further dates? Or as in someone in your family died? Or as in you kept calling and left 50 msgs on her answering machine and you didnt get a response? Please be more specific that way I can help you out...
2007-02-07 09:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Herbal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awes...you sound just like me...im really shy if i dont no a person...and i have the same thing....not to much confindence in myself....you just got to think ...life will go on....your heart will move on...there is billions of girls out there..and i believe that one person is meant to be for someone out there...you just got to believe....dont care wht others think...ask some of your chick friends to help you out...cause since i dont no you personally i cant really say anything about you....but just hang in there...someday i bet you will find someone right for you :)
2007-02-07 09:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Cutie101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-07 09:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋