Ok, my bf and I lived together for about 8 months and were together for a little over a year.
One day when checking my email, i connected to the internet and he had forgotten to close out his messenger. So it came up with an offline from a female stating that she had just dropped her pants and wanted him to come take a look. it listed a link to go to. i was upset but also know that sometimes u get those when you enter into some sites. Ok, so to satisfy my intuition.....i looked into his archives and found where he had contacted other females and commented on their breasts and such and asked to see them on web cam and such.
Now, if you were me. What would you do?
Note* He knows I went through the same thing with an ex who ended up cheating. I told him i didnt care what he looked at, but that I did NOT want him chatting or contacting in any way with another female like that when he was with me. He said ok.
But ended up doing it anyway...ladies if you will...what would u do?
2007-02-07 09:13:58 · 33 answers · asked by Truth Teller 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but I wouldn't be able to deal with that.....Especially he knew you went through that with an ex and now he is going behind your back and disrespecting you and your feelings by doing something that hurt you before with someone else. Unless you trust him which I don't see how because he was hiding something from you and got caught.....He has been deceiving you and who knows if he has other things he is hiding......He broke trust and he is lusting after other women .....I would be hurt and end the relationship.....I don't and wont play games like that....
2007-02-07 09:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Heyy I may only be in 8th grade but i know a lot about relationships from my brother and 3 sisters. I think you should confront him and tell him what you saw, see what he has to say to that. Then just see where that takes you. If you don't tell him and he then finds out that you were looking through his personal conversation, he might get angry and think your spying on him. So confront him and take it from there. I'm here to help!
2007-02-07 09:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by Rhode Islanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one...
I think you should calmly ask him about it. Then just let it be known that you do not want him contacting other females or people while he is with you. If he continues to inquire online about other people, you need to just leave him. Cheating is cheating, eventually he will inquire outside the use of computers.
If you really want to save this relationship, try to talk to him about it. If he is not interested in talking about this at all, then he does not respect you.
2007-02-07 09:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I would call that cheating because he's not really physically do anything. But I do think that you should talk to him immediately, I personally feel that any man sit on the computer and do all that nonsense needs to be left, but communication is the key
2007-02-07 09:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that's really messed up. What I think you should do right know is just chill, well not chill but don't let him suspect that you are on to him. You take time out for you and you back down then he will start comin to you askin you whats wrong or are you mad at him.....and that's when you lay it on him. But if you really could try to get proof try to get back on his line and get what you saw and print it out so he cant deny it. Now its up to you if you wanna stay our not. But find out the truth if he's lieing I say kick him to the curb.
2007-02-07 09:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sounds like u need to confront him about the situation then he has nooo room 2 deny anything....make sure u guys stay calm so u dont leave on a bad note...but if it were me i would leave in an instant its not worth getting hurt over just move on....best of luck....i hope u make all the right descions
2007-02-07 09:20:20 · answer #6 · answered by danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the *** out he dose it 2 times he will keep on doing it once a cheatter always a cheater OK
2007-02-07 09:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
brake up with him right now what r u 2 still doing together??!! I wouldnt be able to cheat on some on but cuze i would feel guilty just dump his butt and go out with some other Hott boy insead
2007-02-07 09:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Softball_lover08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should do anything but tell him you know he is doing that. Its a natural thing for a guy to do. He doesn't love you any less, he just is curious. As you get older you won't harp on little things like that. I dont mean to sound harsh, just the facts of life.
2007-02-07 09:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by hogwildsj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's already looking at women sexually online it's just a matter of time before he's meeting them or someone. What do you think you should do? Can you trust him after this? I know I couldn't. I think you should confront him and move on.
2007-02-07 09:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by ♀_♥₤ẩϋřą♥_♂ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋