Do you think im depressed? pls say no?

Question

.. i dunno like,, itsnot like i dont hav friends im bubbly, social and confident but once im at home i just go down cos im alone.. and i have alot of issues when it comes to sex bcos of unexpected previous experiences and im working with that.. its not like im physically scared 2 be alone but i just feel lonely like i have no1 and i cry alot and sometimes i get mad when i cry like i blame myself n i start pinchin 2 relieve stress.. i dunno .. u think im depressed.. this has been goin on for like the past 3 months or so and i dont feel to do anything like tomorow is my 18th bday and its 9pm and im just guna go lie in bed n sleep.. i dont even care really.. this disturbs me.. but part of me is like well if i just enterd a relationship eveyrthing wud be ok cos i know some1 cares but sumhow i dont think thats the answer althoe i HAV been single for just over a yr now.. help wat do u think??

Answer 1

Well, I recognise that feeling from when I was a teen, you feel that everyone else out there is having fun but you, so it's just easier to say you don't care and go to bed.
The world is not going to come knocking on your door, so you will just have to brave it and get out there - especially for your most important 18th birthday. Do you live alone, or is there someone you could say "hey today is my 18th, wanna come to the bar/club/local dance and help me celebrate?"
Thw worst that can happen is if that person says no thanks, but then you go anyway, and enjoy the people watching - it's better entertainment than the tv, honest!
Good luck, but if this alone feeling carries on, then please go and talk to someone, a doctor, trusted relative anyone like that, to get some help.
And remember, you don't need a partner to have fun, you can do it on your own tooooo!

Answer 2

I am not sure that you are depressed but I would be concerned that you are having negative thoughts and are self harming, even if it is minor. You said that you are working through some issues from previous experiences. Mention to the person who is helping you with that, that you feel this way. Also please visit your local GP or health visitor and tell them what you told us. They are the real people who can help you feel better.......And finally have a great day tomorrow, 18 is a big milestone, sometimes people feel like you do when they reach other age milestones........like 40 or when they retire at 65. This is normal but, get it checked out all the same.

Answer 3

I don't really understand why people feel so... nervous?
when they are on their own.
I regard the peace & tranquility as being a relief, so I can think clearly, remember myself, learn things I want to learn, do the things I long to do, without having the noise & mayhem of boisterous beings bouncing all around, moving & taking my stuff, yelling at me & driving me nuts.
I come in, close the door & go ahhh! I feel calm. I can be me!
I have taught myself art- how to draw, paint, make things, sew, write, I go on the internet to research, I read a lot of books which take me to places I could never otherwise go to, I can dream & plan ahead...
It's not a bad thing to be on your own. You just need to stop being afraid to be on your own. & learn how to use that time wisely.
It is something a bit like a barrier or a hurdle everyone goes through. Just recognise when you need someone & when you don't - same as you do when you either need to sleep or be active.
Don't wallow, mellow! Chill in style! Get your feet up, get comfy & enjoy yourself! Make the most of your FREEDOM from having to go to work & please other people.
JUST Relax! Listen to your inner-self. Somewhere inside you there's a little voice saying "I'd love to do that. I'd enjoy that. That'd be fun!" Don't squash the bubbly enthusiam- with apathetic comments - just get busy with your next project!
CREATE! Meditate. By not doing that, you are only punishing yourself & putting off, to a later date, what you know you should be doing - so why suffer the agony of delaying when it's so much easier & simpler to accept there are going to be times when you are alone so you might as well get on with it as best as you can.
Yeh?

I hope you have a VERY HAPPY Happy Happy day
celebrating your birth.

Answer 4

The cure for depression is easy but doing it is the difficult part. In most cases what causes depression is loneliness. Islam teaches us to be around people because only other people can truly make you happy and temptation from the devil is strongest when you are alone. One of the downsides to technology is that it separates people. Kids go into their own rooms to watch TV or go on computers, this causes families to be separate. Try not to go on the computer too much and spend most of your time around other people, with family or friends and go outside and don't stay indoors. "If you fear Allah(swt) you have no reason to fear anything else" - Imam Ali

Answer 5

Sounds like you just need to get yourself a few good, quality friends to have around you, and a course in self-esteem.

We can all be bubbly, social and confident around people. Its a mask we put on until we get home and walk in the door. Then come the sadness, lethargy, "alone-ness" and all those feelings.

It sounds like you haven't got over something that's happened to you and its time to get some counselling on that to unblock the built up fear and anger - which manifests itself as depression.

Then start enjoying life again. Do it now, lifes too short to be crying your eyes out. Get your hormones checked for imbalances too. xx

Answer 6

I don't know whether you are depressed or not, I don't know you so I couldn't possibly tell. But you sound as if you are worried about yourself and your feelings and to be honest that is the important thing.

I suggest you have a think about how things are for you at the moment and how you want things to be. Consider what you think about continuing how you are and if you don't like it consider what you would like to change.

Don't take any notice of what other people think, just do whatever is right for you.

Take care and I hope your birthday is all you want it to be.

Answer 7

Happy 18th birthday, you are not alone you have us lot, get typing and we will all answer you, we all feel lonely at times, even if you are in a relationship you can feel lonely. Cheer up and a good cry now and again does you the world of good.

Answer 8

What worries me is the pinching (yeah it's not causing permanent damage, but it is self-destructive behavior) and the fact that this has been going on for 3 months. Depression is hard, and it's even harder to admit it for the first time. But you took a good first step by asking this question. The next step is to ask a doctor. Depression is a medical condition. If you had diabetes or cancer you wouldn't hesitate to go to your doctor. Depression is the same. If you go to the doctor they might put you on medication. There is nothing shameful about being on depression meds (just like being on meds for any other sickness). And they will help you. Please go to the doctor before it gets any worse.

Answer 9

Thats life for you - ups and downs, i go thru fazes like that too n get confused coz i have a loving family nice house n job n boyfriend n i think to myself - why do i feel like this. I guess its just part of life to feel this way sumtimes - hang in there think of all the gud things

Answer 10

Hello insaneii, Looking at your pic, to me you appear as an attractive young lady who 'millions' of guys in this world of ours, would give their RIGHT arm, to have you walk with them holding , one they have LEFT!. Right and Left , its a bit like POSITIVE and NEGATIVE you can have a POSITIVE mental attitude (PMA) or it can be (NMA). Your mind in many respects is like a garden, what you plant in it comes BACK to you! You are better than you think and its time to start THINKING better. Your life Plan is a bit like a plan builders use to construct a home . Foundation is layed (you, schooling/ education etc) then the frame ( you,employment /friends social) and finally the roof ( you, marriage / starting a family etc) The people who are having the home built have CHOICES, like location colours schemes etc and so do you have CHOICES in your life. Currently I do not know of anyone who does not like to feel IMPORTANT in life, and you are no exception. If one of your friends were to take the time and send you an email saying, "Hi I have just been siting here thinking of you, and how special you are to me as my friend." How would that make you feel ? Would you feel important ?? The point here is, its a bit like that garden I mentioned, show an interest in friends / people and what you, put out WILL come back to you!! Dont leave the development of your potential to chance, because most problems really are the abscence of ideas. THINKING is the HARDEST job of all thats why so few of us do it, because how we THINK influences how we handle LIFE. Our minds are our most precious possesions and the chief function of our body is to carry our brains around. PLAN to be an IMPORTANT friend to those of your CHOICE who INTEREST 'you". and good luck! (I am happy for you to contact me if you desire !!)