What to say to Dad waiting too long for the love of his life?

Question

My Dad is a sentimental type of man who has had a fascination for Japanese women - even after divorcing his 1st wife (my mother... :)

'The Asian Persuasian' as he calls it!!

There's this lady he's been WAITING FOR for about 12 years or more now.... It's is becoming a little ridiculous and sad to see him go through the 'wait'..

She lives in Japan right now..

Japanese culture tends to be not so outspoken, so at first I thought she didn't want to hurt his feelings and 'break it to him' that it's just not going to happen...

However, this lady had told my father 'her dream would be to settle with him in Australia and get married'... Nothing is happening, she won't invite him to Japan or make the effort to move to Australia.... Says she has too many family obligations..???

He just won't let her go...

Should I approach her quietly myself and say 'come on lady, stop leaving him hanging by a thread!!!??'

I'm just afraid this will go on forever!! :(

My place to speak up????

Answer 1

It must be frustrating for you to watch your dad go through this-
unfortunately, it's really not your place to step in. If he is comfortable with the way things are going- enough to wait it out, then leave him be. He'll move on if it starts looking hopeless, right?
Another idea would be to get him 'out' and meet other people.
Maybe he'll connect with someone local and start fresh.

Answer 2

i really dont no what to say but my parent divorced when i was 6 and my dad remarried to a woman who at first was just like the woman your dad is WAITING FOR then my dad asked her to marry her and ever since she is AWESOME just go with what your heart says and it will be perfect

Answer 3

Its not exactly your place but i would. Just make sure u do it respectfully u dont want to make an enemy of your dad if she says that u called. Try to encourage him to keep looking for another lady friend.