Hi, I desperately need help with a problem that I've had for a very long time. I have absolutely no people skills. I have trouble opening up to people and I get nervous when I'm talking. I try so hard to smile and be a good person, but I guess I always fail. People constantly walk all over me. I really hate this. I hate not having any friends. I'm amazed that my girlfriend even loves me and stays with me. I have no confidence, and I am sure people sense that. I grew up in an abusive household where talking was not an option. My mom always told us to keep our mouths shut, so we wouldn't upset my stepdad. I spent 6 years of my life smoking and drinking. I've quit both for over one year now, but it seems like I'm stuck in the same rut. I just want to be able to smile and have a great sense of humor like I once did. I miss the days where I could laugh at anything. I am very intelligent in the sense of "book smarts," but I lack everything else. Any advice?
2007-02-07 08:32:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u need to start practicing right away, start talking to strangers in your every day events and notice how they respond to things you say. if they laugh you know your on the right track, if they say how sweet, you know your doing well. then polish those skills. u will be a casanova in no time. remember practice, practice, practice!
2007-02-07 08:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mickirs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your confidence is shot. it can take a very long time to build confidence up, it's a day by day thing. focus on the things that make you happy, even the tiniest little things that make you feel good. remind yourself of them. try to look for all the little good things that happen and that you have. remind yourself that somewhere inside, you still have that great sense of humour and the ability to smile. you're just shutting it up inside. like i said, it's a day by day thing.
2007-02-07 16:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Chasey Lane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take an acting or a speech class at your local college. it'll force you to get in front of people and talk. there are also many self-help books on self-confidence and how to WIN friends and INFLUENCE people. check 'em out. then go out there and chat up some peeps.
2007-02-07 16:38:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about all you went through. I would try counseling. Also, just try and get out in social situation. Don't try and be someone you are not. Let it come out naturally.
2007-02-07 16:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋