my best friend is jealous of the guy that im going out with... i don't want to dump either and now their always fighting over me and i don't know what to do... plus their best friends....what do i do?????
2007-02-07 08:24:25 · 10 answers · asked by mascot336 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always a tough situation. You should explain to them both how you feel, and tell them that there is no choosing between them; they're both equally important to you and you plan on spending time with both and keeping both people in your life. Just try to spend some time alone with each of them, and also try to do things with both of them at the same time so they can both feel important to you, and maybe start to lose the jealousy. If they are both guys, however, then the situation might not be very easy to resolve. Good luck!
2007-02-07 08:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jiffer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you putting your boyfriend in a position to be jealous? Intentinally or unintentionally, it sounds like you are pairing the two against each other. Not only are they fighting over your affections, but sounds like they are throwing away their friendship at the same time. You may have to make the choice on the one you want to be with because you can't have your cake and eat it too. Besides, it is unfair to both your best friend and your boyfriend. End this now by making the stand so both of them know exactly where they stand before more emotional turmoil ensues.
2007-02-07 16:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Randy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Try to plan things that the three you would like to do, movies skating, walking the dogs in the park beach, and let them both know how much they both mean to you as friends and what you want is for all three of you the get alone as best friend.
2. Invite a neither male friend alone you think you friend might like to hang out with the three of you and see if something happens. Yes your playing match maker but if it works you don't have to lose a good friend you get to have three good friends to be around. And yes those would make your life a lot better off.
Good luck keep smiling :-)
2007-02-07 16:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I htink u should take both of them out to lunchor something and have a mature talk with them.Let both of them know how u feel about each of them,tell them their place in ur heart.U must like ur boyfriend as a boyfriend and ur friend as just a friend right? I know its not fair to u how both of them r acting but u should be the one to take action since it has to do with u. If they dont listen to u then drop the one thats not ur boyfriend hes not acting as a good friend 2 u or his best friend.
God Bless.
2007-02-07 16:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by martin c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have neglected your friend since you have gotten with the guy then she is only upset about that and if those two are friends then he is also not spending as much time with her. She is probably just upset about it. Because they are friends they will fight and I think maybe you should all sit down and talk and see what is bother each one of you.
2007-02-07 16:41:31 · answer #5 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to grow up.You need to sit down and figure how to make them understand you are not going to deal with this petty Bull------- Try and work it out to where you spend certain days with your home girl just her no b/f. then do the same for b/f.
Then let those to deal with each other if the bond is tight they will
be OK.
2007-02-07 16:34:40 · answer #6 · answered by speedy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Include both of them. Explain that sometimes you need time with just you boyfriend to your best friend and vice-versa.
2007-02-07 16:30:57 · answer #7 · answered by californiasurfergirl626 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with both of them! and tell them it's ridiculous why there are acting this way, they both need to understand that you can't be with both of them 24/7!
2007-02-07 16:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of the one that pays you in the long run and analyse them to know why they are jealous.
2007-02-07 16:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by jude g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all go out together sometimes.
2007-02-07 16:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋