My boyf left me months ago saying he wasnt ready to be with anyone(I had to initiate it because i knew something was wrong!) a few days later i found out he was sleeping with someone else! he is still with this irl, shes abit younger and part of his crowd! I am guted I stood by him through prison and when he came out he was so lovely! He meant everything to me and i feel that i ruined everything, i dont know what she had that i didnt i really miss him and now we dont even speak, I'm heartbroken and feel like i never want to meet someone else!
2007-02-07 08:14:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are better off without that scumbag ratbag..you deserve better..keep tellling yourself that..dont end up bitter because of him..there are plenty of nice guys out there.
2007-02-07 08:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex partner left me when our son was only 3 months old. Just like that he said he didn't love me anymore and would hardly speak to me. He then kept calling and each time asked if i was seeing someone else yet which i wasn't. I asked him the same and he said no he wasn't. I was then walking up the shop and there he was walking along holding another woman's hand with about 4 kids. She was well older than me, ugly and i just felt like what the hells wrong with me that he would want to go out with that! And why does he spend all his time and money on her kids when we have a beautiful son together. However he then wanted me back as she was a right cow and was constantly checking up on him and i felt so good because he'd realised what he'd lost and there was nothing he could do about it. Move on, be happy and show him that you are strong enough to be without him then he might realise what he's thrown away. You worth more then someone who ignores you hun x
2007-02-07 08:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in your situation you did nothing wrong and you are not at fault. This is something that has to deal with him. It seems like he has his own ambitions and things he wants to do. Maybe he got tired and wanted something new. Or maybe he needed someone to help him get through his dark times and then move on. Either way it looks like you were used and left out to dry. You should understand that there was nothing you can do but understand that kindness at times can be used against you. Understand that there are better people out there and find someone that wants to be with you for you. Also try to stay away from people who go to jail. They have bad reps and most of the time they did the crime.
2007-02-07 08:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh girl he's getting the better of you. Stop having pitty parties. Don't think of it as a complete loss. You have learned something here. Start thinking about yourself and not what he did. It is not good to dwell. Keep busy go out with friends enjoy the things you love out of life. Pretty soon you will totally forget about him. I'm sorry to say this but I think he is a loser anyways. There is so many other men out there that wouldn't do such a thing to you. I'm sure he will be back once he goes back to prison but you will definitely have the upper hand when he returns. Please don't take him back tell him where to go!
2007-02-07 08:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've read everything that people have told u and they're all right. I wish I could add something to it, but unfortunatly I'm in a similar boat.My fiancee of three years just broke up with me in December 06 for someone whos my age, has more kids than me and even lives in another state.I did everything for that man. I put up with his drinking, the drugs at one time,he left me for 8 months to get clean and I paid for him to come back home,weve broken up a few times and he cheated on me and now aftera year of everythings good, he leaves me for this *****. no guy is worth my tears or yours.... believe me
2007-02-07 10:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by ISLANDLUV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey some guys don't deserve a nice ppl like u.. be sure he was not urs .. it's hard to get over some one u loved.. but u have to..live ur life u can't make him back cuz he already prefers to be with some one else there is nothing wrong with u some boys are just looking to find a girl like u... so just let it go !
2007-02-07 08:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by persian_ladyyy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont be trippin its his choice
why burn inside when you hear his voice
its time you took responsibility for your own actions
forget about him worry about your self satifaction
go have a drink if your negative to drink one
soon you wont need one when you find one
there's a million out there n now you know
becareful who you roll wit cause you never know
my advice is to be happy n carry on with life
love will find you smile n stay bright
maybe its writtin whateva went down
guess you'l know that foryourself when times turn around
trust me dont fall victim in the dirt
when you fall victim you end up being hurt
smile darlin honestly he's a sucker
time you met a peaceful brother !!!
2007-02-07 08:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by THUG LIFE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie, this guy was just using you. he didnt really care about you. the proof is him saying that he wasnt ready to be with anybody and the next thing you know he's doing this other girl. why would he do something like that? obviously he's not a good person. you have to try to move on.
2007-02-07 08:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok you shouldnt care for that guy ok. he was in prison, slept with another, and now you actually expect to return with him. you deserve better. if you think you are great you are and he should be hapy about being with you.. dont let him treat you badly. you have a dignity to maintain. good luck
2007-02-07 08:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by MAX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to move on, obviously he didn't realize what he had and what he lost. he moved on so why can't you? yeah heartbreak is hard no one ever said it would be easy but take a look what he has put you through by breaking your heart and you shouldn't want to be with him after what he has done with you. maybe if you move on he will want you back. but if that happens, ignore him like he has ignored you! good luck!
2007-02-07 08:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋