So the "greatest boyfriend I've ever had" broke up with me last week... So my question is... he still calls me sometimes... and explains to me that he's just confused... should I move on, date around, and try to find someone new... or should I sit around and wait until he's not confused n e more... we only dated for four months... but it just seems weird to talk to other people on the phone and even try to hang out with someone else! so please help me... I can't sit at home and think about him anymore!
2007-02-07 08:13:50 · 6 answers · asked by ~*~Hillary~*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do neither. Don't sit and think about it, but don't just jump into another relationship. First thing you need to do is to keep yourself occupied. Hang out with your friends, get a job/work more, find a hobby or sport (i loved to scrapbook.). Try to ALWAYS keep something else on your mind. Also, hang out with guy friends you never had time for. You don't have to date them or move on, but just get to know them. You never know who might have been there all along and you never knew it. That way, in case ur ex decides he doesn't want to ever be with you again, you'll have support and new guys to "chose from" ( i don't mean that in a bad way, just that you will know them better) and if he does want to get back with you, then you have stronger friendships and depending on your hobby, a more fit body or atleast more accomplished.
2007-02-07 08:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Andii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why he broke up with you based on what you left out here, but I would venture that he had decided to "move on' and has since found out that whatever he thought was better, isn't. Which is why he's now confused. You would be confused and confusing others too if you started trying to date other people seriously already. Why not hang out with your family and girlfriends, if you are asked on a date, consider it a casual date. As for the boyfriend, if you really think he's that great, keep talking to him as a friend, but keep is short and simple until he gets "unconfused". Then you don't get used or hurt as he is figuring things out.
2007-02-07 16:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Nutzzzzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is SO not the best advice, but it is the only thing that works for me. I have to move on to get over someone. Get out, meet some new people and get over the feeling of loss.
The best thing to do would be to tell you to take some time, find yourself, and learn to like being by yourself before finding someone new. But I personally never do that. lol
I think that as far as the guy is concerned, he's one you should just let go.
I personally have done this same thing to guys and I often come back after 'times of confusion' but it never works out.
It really boils down to the dude was royally getting on my nerves and although I like him, I just needed space to breathe.
OR, I found someone I wanted to go out with more and when it didnt work out, I come back to the old trusty. I never completely broke communication with him just in case the new fling didnt work out.
THAT is usually the case. Confusion often equals - I am confused about WHO I LIKE BETTER!
Dont sit around and wait on him because there is someone out there who will fit everything you need, and vice versa. He isnt it.
2007-02-07 16:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and date no need to sit around and wait for him to make up his mind.
2007-02-07 16:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Tricee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should meet/date others - don't sit around waiting for him to make up his mind about you.
2007-02-07 16:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by oneluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dumped u so just go out and get on with things
2007-02-07 16:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋