I recently found out my guy friend and I like each other. He was going to get me a necklace/bracelet/ring that was $255!!! But I talked him out of it. He believes a guy should spoil the girl not the other way around. I am being stubborn and getting him something. =] I remember he said he needs a surf sex comb so i am getting him that, he said he LOVES ice cream so i am getting him a $10 coldstones giftcard, he LOVES Zumiez so i am getting him a $100 giftcard, he WANTS new videogames so i am getting him a $50 giftcard to EB games, and he likes starburst so I am getting that too...he said he hated everything after he found out i was getting him something cuz he doesnt want me spending money on him! I want to show him i remember what he likes and that he is special to me! Do guys appreciate when girls listen to what they like and get it for him. If you liked what he liked who'd you consider my gifts thoughtful or meaningless?! Curious =/
2007-02-07 08:11:45 · 35 answers · asked by morena0kizzez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Question too long, you lost me at guy friend...sorry.
2007-02-07 08:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How long have you two been going out? I think you are going a little bit overboard! You can find ways to express how you feel and show him how much you care that don't empty out your bank account! Plus gift cards are not very sentimental - personally I give a gift card when I DON'T know someone well enough to actually pick out a specific gift for them. Clearly you do care enough to really put some thought into his gift, but save your money! And perhaps find one or two things that he would really like. After all, you'll have plenty of other occasions to buy him gifts - save some of your ideas! Good luck!
2007-02-07 08:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by NikNak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider your gifts thoughtful, but not all those at once. Spread them out over birthdays, christmas, etc. The $100 card would be for something big - christmas, probably.
Be sure he knows things that you like, too. If he's like most guys, he may have trouble coming up with ideas for gifts, and we're horrible at reading minds or picking up subtle clues. A list or an ad with a big circle stuck to the refridgerator door is not out of line sometimes.
2007-02-07 08:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I appreciate it when women go out of their way to get things for me (I'm told that I'm hard to shop for, since I buy what I need). But I don't need much, and gifts that come from the heart instead of the wallet mean more to me.
I would much prefer a quiet special dinner prepared with some quality time watching a movie and holding each other.
2007-02-07 08:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by down2earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very thoughtful that you listened to what he liked and paid attention to those details... I think that you went kinda overboard tho on the gifts... I wouldnt give them all to him at one time either, but I cant believe hes spending 255 bucks on u either, thats a lil crazy for just a guy friend..... but nehoo I think you are on the right track but maybe you should find more personal things than gift cards, that have a little more feeling behind them. Peace :)
2007-02-07 08:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by sweetcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an old fashioned guy. Nothing wrong with this. Respect his wishes. You are making it sound like a competition as to who can spend more on who. Just get him something SMALL. He will appreciate this more than a whole bunch of crap that means you spent a lot of money but doesn't come from the heart.
ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS OR MONEY>
get him a teddy bear and tell him this reminds you of him when you saw it. Warm and snuggly.
2007-02-07 08:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I know where you're going. Your being him gifts and he doesn't like it, but he is giving you gifts and you reject him. I think how relationships should be based on the guy treating the girl with respect and showing his appreciation to you. So what I'm trying to say is accept his gifts, because it just doesn't seem right a girl giving an expensive item to a guy but vice-versa works. And don't feel bad he's giving you gifts, just make sure he doesn't over treat you, because then he'll be running low on money.
2007-02-07 08:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a girl's standpoint, I think it's cute. You listened to him and really seem to care.
From MY standpoint as a gift lover, I find it fairly hypocritical that you would deny your friend the right to spend money on you while you spend over $150 on him! While I understand you're trying to be coy, what are you expecting from him? Are you expecting him to get you something?
A lot of time when I say things like "oh, don't buy that!" I really DO want something like that!
If he wants to spoil you, then let him!
2007-02-07 08:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
shoot, u wanna be my girl instead!? u can spoil me as much as u want! yeah im the same exact way as ur guy frend where i like to spoil my lady but i dont expect anything back in return. but if she wants to give something back, then im gonna accept it cuz i think it would make somebody feel bad if u dont wanna take there gift. it makes them feel like its not good enough. so just tell ur man to chill out and to let u spoil him every once in awhile too. it doesnt make him less of a man.
2007-02-07 08:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by oc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's meaningful, but a little too much. Besides, what the heck are you going to get him on his birthday if you get him everything he wants now? ;) Tone it down a little, don't freak him out. You getting him all these gifts is going to make him feel like he has to give you a million gifts too...
2007-02-07 08:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Aida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, guys like it when a girl actually shows she listened to what he liked and gets it for him. However, I can see why he may get upset knowing you spent all this money on him but would not let him spend money on you. That could make him feel that you are trying to control him or buy his affections. If you want to spend money on him, you need to let him spend money on you.
2007-02-07 08:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋