How To Shake This Feeling?

Question

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How do you shake the feeling of feeling jealous & insecure. I've never felt so afraid of loosing anyone before in my life. I know he keeps in touch with his ex, that doesn't sit well with me but I have an ex that I'm still really good friends with too.

I want to feel secure, I want to have faith in how he feels about me, but it's so hard. I don't know how to control these constant feelings of insecurity & self doubt when it comes to this relationship. Him & I have talked about it & he has his insecurities too. So can anyone give any advice or make any suggestion as to how to have a more secure feeling in the relationship?

Answer 1

The sad thing is that is the hardest thing to shake. I know exactly what you are going through because i still go through it with my husband. I have found that the best way to deal with it is to just tell him when i am feeling that way right when it starts! By doing this he helps ease my fears and points out how ridiculous i am being. It used to be bad because i would try to hide my feelings and i would end up exploding after a while and he would be so mad at me for not trusting him. After 6 years the feelings are still there but we have learned how to deal with them. When i start feeling insecure i just call him or tell him right away and we talk about why i am feeling that way and the problem goes away because putting it out there exposes how stupid it is. Try this and i promise it will work. I am still so embarrasses about my thoughts and can't believe after six years i am like this but it is better and better every day. Good luck

Answer 2

You can never control someone else, so you can't be secure in him being perfect. relationships will never give you full security. be honest with him in how you feel.