pushing me away?

Question

so i went on a date with this guy and we had a good time. i said so, he said so...we held hands and we kissed at the end of the date. but now it's monday, and it's awkward. i was talking to one of my friends and she had told me that she talked to him while he was in front of his guy friends and he said that we just made out...nothing serious but he wouldn't mind doing it again. but the trouble is i like him more than just a friend. i think he's blowing it off because he thinks that's how i feel about it...nothing serious. i just want to tell him my feelings just to get it off my chest. i was going to do it on v-day but is that a bad time?
advice? observations?

if he didn't like me, why would he want to do it again?
keep in mind that he's in high school and he was surrounded by his male friends.

but at the same time, i'm kinda mad at my friend for asking him what's going on between us.

like interested in casual dating nothing too serious.

Answer 1

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Don't be mad at your friend or yourself.
This is a classic case of showing out in front of the boys. You'll NEVER get a straight answer in front of the boys. You have to get him alone and express yourself.
Men have an "ego" problem that is far greater than affection.
So, mind yourself and let him show off....IF you really like him.
Just remind him to respect you when he does talk. If he doesn't, he doesn't respect you to begin with and you should leave him alone before you become a notch on his belt.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Im sure he was trying to play it cool in front of his friends. Do NOT let your friends keep going up and asking him whats going on (I know you said you were mad about it so I assume you didn't want her to, which is good) But that would scare him off probably.
As for telling him on valentines, instead maybe ask what his plans for that day are? And hint at doing something together. I wouldnt come right out with feelings for him because you don't want to scare him off with too much too soon.
Next time you two hang out just see what happens, don't rush things, just let him know you had a great time and want to do it again, he'll know your interested. Good luck!

Answer 3

sweetie your situation is very common in hs kids. he is not blowing you off or anything. he just wants a friends with benefits kind of relation or may be not but by how you explained the situation it seems like it. so be very careful dont get hurt. tell him how you feel before v day coz every day is a v day if you want it to be. just make sure do not let him know that how much you care just talk to him casually.
generally first kiss is the best thing in a relation but if that guy just consider it making out nothing else then dont waste your time

Answer 4

Valentine's Day is totally the wrong day. You need to find a private place, away from everyone else and ask him if he wants to hang out again. Keep in mind that agreeing to hang out isn't a commitment, he's only agreeing to spend some time with you. Don't rush things by asking him to define your relationship before he gets a chance to know you. Let him see who you are by spending time with you and it'll become obvious if he wants more than just a friendship.

Also keep in mind that some guys will have sex and make out with a girl they don't want a relationship with so before you give anything you want to share with a boyfriend make sure he wants to be a boyfriend.

Answer 5

But, today is Wednesday.

I'm not sure what to think, other than you might be thinking too much about it. Why don't you talk to him directly and tell him whats on your mind and that you wanted to get together and do something again. Just enjoy spending time together. And, I wouldn't sweat your friend on anything. So what if your friend asked. I'm not really sure why you are thinking he is trying to push you away. Your information doesn't show any of that.

Answer 6

No high school boy ever wants his buddies to find out he really likes a girl, at that age they all try to pretend its just about "getting some". If you really like him, get him a nice valentines card and put how you feel in it, make sure he is alone when he gets it and reads it. But be careful, by telling him how much you really like him, he may use that to get you to sleep with him. No matter what, do what feels right in your heart.

Answer 7

Guys don't fall as quickly as girls do. Remember the song lyric, "I fell too fast I feel too much" from Insensitive? It just takes them longer to develop feelings and to disclose their feelings.

You've had one date. Ask him out again when he isn't around his friends. Keep the urge to tell him everything under wraps for awhile. You don't want to pressure him or scare him off. Asking him out for another date is a clear enough sign that you're interested.

Answer 8

You're confusing your self and us. Listen, go step by step, for one, you have to learn to communicate and confront people. I know it's not an easy job, but you gotta do what you have to, right? confront your friend of getting involved in your affairs, therefore get it off your chest and get over your anger. If you're liking a guy, why wait and set a date to tell him? believe me i understand these situations, it can be exhausting, annoying and huge interruption in your daily life. You can't think straight, not to mention, eating and sleeping. Just go ahead and tell him how you feel, before it's too late.

Answer 9

He may be saying he'd do it again because he's got hormones! Don't just tell him how you feel. You may become embarrassed. I remember being that age and thinking everyone was 'the one'. I usually ended up saying something stupid and then realizing that I didn't like him THAT much. Also remember that anything you say to him he will repeat to his friends and laugh about (if he doesn't feel like you do) since OBVIOUSLY he is into telling them everything. PLEASE don't become a notch on this guy's belt.

Answer 10

This guy reacted the same way I did when I found the love of my life. Sometimes a guy has to come to grips with the fact that he might have found something he didnt think hed find so early.