I have been friends with this guy since last August and we've become pretty close. We go out, shopping, dinner, movies, we email and talk on the phone basically everyday - he even made sure to schedule his classes at the same time as mine. He invited me to go to a New Year's Eve party with him and even talks about us going out to dinner with his friend and his wife and about how much his friends will like me. However, we've never kissed, held hands, only hugged and when we go out to dinner or a movie, I always pay for my own. Additional info is that I am going through a divorce and he knows this so I'm not sure if that has anything to do with the mixed signals or what. He is single and I know of at least one girl that was interested in him that he completely blew off and made fun of her to me. Anyway, I'm fine with this either way, just wanted some other opinions! Thanks to all who answer!
2007-02-07 07:37:55 · 14 answers · asked by Melanie M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he is interested but is respecting the fact that you are going through a rough time, sounds like a real good guy!
If you are interested in him, then I would keep going to dinner and doing things together.
Are you legally seperated? If so, then there is nothing wrong with a date and goodnight kiss. But if nothing is final with the divorce yet, you should respect that and remain friends until you are legally single again. Congrats and I hope this turns out well for you! He sounds like a nice man.
2007-02-07 07:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say there are two possibilities. A. This is one stand up guy, who feels he should give you some distance while you finalize your divorce and get ready to move on to new relationships or B. He just views you as a good friend he likes to spend time with.
P.S. Most older men tend not to become "friends only" with the opposite sex unless they believe it has potential to become "friends with benefits" status. They either will settle into a true relationship or will go through life as a player. Either this, or he might be batting for the other team??!!
2007-02-07 07:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by JamesW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably giving you time to sort through the divorce. Try sending him a signal that you'd be receptive to a more intimate relationship. Then the ball will be in his court and he'll either respond or decline. Either way he sounds like a good friend.
2007-02-07 07:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by tain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong on that count. Many and most kung-fu systems utilize techniques from preexisting systems in addition to their own. As for your karate... look up people like Mas Oyama, who can be considered a Mixed Martial Artist. Discipline does not come from training martial arts any more than it does from baseball and other sports. Other such benefits vary widely, depending upon the individual.
2016-05-24 03:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, there's really only one way to find out... Ask him. Your situation is so similar to mine... my divorce was final last month. He IS sending you mixed signals, because you aren't understanding what he's saying, so, ask him... but be prepared for the answer, and be sure that you can handle whatever he says, keep it friends, or take it to the next level... either have to be acceptable, otherwise, don't bring it up.
My friend did the same thing to me, however, when I asked him he wants to remain friends only... but everyone else felt he liked me 'in that way'... he still might, but be too afraid to screw with the friendship, but you'll never know FOR SURE if you don't ask.
2007-02-07 07:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by o b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing a role which isn't a bad thing. He's being the good friend in a time of need. If he has feelings beyond friendship, he won't say until he know 100% that you're ready for that again. So basically, don't lead him on unless you're ready. When you are...tell him straight up...
2007-02-07 07:42:15 · answer #6 · answered by biggenius0891 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a wonderful suitor who is trying to be understanding that you may not want to dive into another relationship. See if you want a future with him or not, and commit accordingly. You would hate to see feelings made or lost on the account of you not making the move. He has left the ball in your court.
2007-02-07 07:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dear Cabbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you because you're off of a divorce and you're on the rebound... you're like an injured little fawn and he's the hunter dressed in the phony antlers just waiting to grab at that... venison.
2007-02-07 07:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing to do is just ask him. He may just be waiting for a sign from you. On the other hand, he may just want to be a friend. Communication is the best idea...
2007-02-07 07:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by astralpen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is really interested in you but is respecting you and giving you the space while you sort out your issues.
2007-02-07 07:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋