My BF wants to wait till were married and im glad but people told me that we will give into pressure what do you think?
2007-02-07 07:36:49 · 31 answers · asked by Alli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Were both virgins
2007-02-07 07:37:10 · update #1
Well I like to try on a pair of shoes before I buy it. Wouldn't you like to do the same?
2007-02-07 07:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hi 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
I don't think anythings impossible. I wish the best of luck for the both of you. If the both of you want to wait then you should wait and be proud of it. Very few people in the world can say they were both virgins when they married. This is why people say that you will give into pressure. I personally feel you will both wait and be very glad you did. Good luck!!!
2007-02-07 07:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're both virgins, you will probably be able to wait. It's like drinking; there are good and bad aspects, and although one may be curious, it's easiest to stay away from alcohol when one has never had it before.
Their statistics are distorted. Maybe people they know did not wait, but what they may be forgetting is that many people who do not wait wish they had, and some of them even abstain again. I did not wait, but I have decided to abstain now. I have not had a relationship to test it with, but I think I will be able to do it because I changed what I am looking for in a man.
Good luck, and God bless you!
2007-02-07 07:44:24 · answer #3 · answered by bisous148 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you guys are the only ones who can make the decision to wait or to cave. I don't think waiting is as important as KNOWING that you're both ready for sex and all the things that come with it. Good and bad.
Look at it realistically, know the facts, the risks and really get to know him before you make this very important decision but make sure that the two of you are the ones making it, not the people around you!
Congrats on finding a guy worth waiting for!
2007-02-07 07:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Gretchen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people wait until they are married to have sex, though it's much harder to do in our society because promiscuity is the norm. It's also really hard to do because many people wait until they are older to get married these days.
If you have found someone else who shares your values and you both make this decision, then you've done the hard part. You can do it, though it will likely be tough. I've had friends who waited, but they got married young (like 20-21 years old).
2007-02-07 07:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by lizzgeorge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not impossible. It is extremely difficult in the time that we live in. We are constantly bombarded with sex on t.v., in movies, on videos, in music, just about everywhere we turn.
But if you turn to the Bible and the teachings that this country was founded on, you'll be better. Two of my friends - he was a 27-year-old minister, she was almost 28 (I think) - were engaged for almost a year and did NOTHING!!
Now, get this, neither of them were virgins, but both had given their lives to Christ and accepted Him as their Savior. The strength of Jesus can and will get you through when all else fails. The Lord CAN change you and CAN change your life.
If the two of you are rooted and grounded in the Lord, they you'll be okay. If not, it wouldn't be a bad idea to consider it - not just to abstain until you marry, but to claim salvation while it's being given away free and painlessly.
2007-02-07 07:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by luttibelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 28 when I married and a virgin. My wife was 26 and a virgin. We are both glad we waited. Sex is something special to save for the one person you marry, and spend the rest of your life with. Don't listen to those who say you'll give in.
2007-02-07 07:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by aj1964 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you're both virgins I think it's possible to wait until marriage. I've been married and divorced and would not wait until marriage at this point in my life.
2007-02-07 07:39:24 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to YOU and your BF, not other people. It's a decision for the two of you to make together. You may change your mind about waiting - not the worst thing that could happe, is it?
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2007-02-07 07:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by fdm215 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummmm, its up 2 you both...
he is probably nervious, thats a common accuse for guys that are nervious about not pleasing a woman the first time...
if religion is the reason, i would say wait, otherwise communication and do your homework and stuff
gl
edit: sex doesnt cheapen a relationship, respect should be carried through the physical part of ur relationship as well, and if it does it will make both of you very happy
2007-02-07 07:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by p34nu7bu773rj3lly7im3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't why EVERYONE tells you that its impossible for a guy to wait until marriage...I have a couple of guy friends who did--some that wish that they did. Don't sweat what everyone else thinks. That is what I think.
2007-02-07 07:40:04 · answer #11 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋