I feel really depressed and low?

Question

I don't know why,
I've spent months learning to drive and I passed my test 1st time, I got my car last week.
I feel so nervous and useless.
I'm so scared, I saw a hit and run a year ago which was a woman verus 3 cars and I thought I was over it, but I can't get it out of my mind.
Since passing my test I've had no motivation to do anything, but I need to drive as I'm a single mum with 3 daughters.
I have bills coming out of everywhere and I've suffered from severe domestic violence in the past, but I'm out of that now.
I don't know whats wrong with me, I don't want to just take tablets,
What am I going to do ???
I'm normally stronger than this.

Answer 1

Sending you hugs as well..
My second husband was an abuser..who shot himself and died in my arms 12 days later..(we had to remove life support)...I went through a terrific bout of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) because of it...but at first, I refused to believe I had a problem. Honestly, there is NOTHING wrong with some kind of anti-depressant (I have been on Prozac for serveral years now)...it doesn't change who you are or how you feel..it levels out the seratonin in your brain so that you can cope better (kinda like a diabetic needing insulin...his body just can't adjust his sugar like it should...same with anti-depressants and seratonin)...I really feel like you need to get yourself to a doctor or therapist ASAP...you do not need to suffer....there is help and hope...
You have already shown IMMENSE strength in leaving your abuser...I know...it took all I had to leave mine.. you have done the first important step..admitting that you may need some help...the scars domestic violence leaves on it's victims can last for years and years...and pop-up when you think you're over it...
I wish you much hope and love...do it for you..and your lovely children....Good luck and May God Bless You...

Answer 2

Maybe you should talk to a counsler about your nervousness, they might be able to talk you through some of your worries. You should, especially, talk with someone if you've had that worry for as long as you have now.

Beyond that, I can't say much. I was in a pretty ugly accident a few weeks back and haven't gotten behind the wheel again yet. I could, I'm all healed up now, but I still jump when someone tailgates me or hits their brakes. It's really frightening being in a car wreck (which isn't exactly what you've described, but similar), and I don't even remember much of it!

I'd say try and not let it get to you; I got my liscence at 18, and have been driving very safely for nearly 5 years now. As long as you drive defensively, you should be alright. Yes, there is still a risk for an accident, but if you're being careful, it's dimished greatly!
You could, also, try short trips here and there; drive around an uncrowded parking lot, or through a neighborhood, until you feel a bit better about gettin' back in the car.
Best of luck, I hope you can feel better!

Answer 3

I use to feel so alone and empty. I would sigh really deeply and dispair my life and life in general. It got to the point where nothing seemed to matter, waking up was really the only high point in the day. After all, whats the point in doing anything when it no longer matters.

And thats what happened. Nothing mattered anymore. After awhile I lost everything that ever did matter and found I was left with only myself, breath and life. No friends, family, anyone to talk too, not even a stinking cat.

Well, after awhile of having nothing and being in the dumps I started to realize I was still alive. And I started to enjoy the very simple basic things in life. The weather, breathing, making my heart exercise and pump life. The flight of birds and the sway of trees gave me back my life and let me realize that every day we are here has to be siezed and celebrated because we are alive with no gaurantee of being here tomorrow.

I also found, that holding my head high and looking skyward when crying helped diminished tears and oddly, it makes crying feel different. Chin up, dont let the days be filled with fear and doubt. Be glad for life.

Answer 4

You are not alone in feeling depressed. You do need to talk to someone professional. Chances are you will need medication but don't worry about it. First you need to find a professional to talk to and help you. You and your doctor or psychologist will be able to determine together if you actually need medication or not. What you can do in the meantime is try to find something different to do for yourself or with your kids. Go away for a weekend somewhere fun, like to a beach or something. I know it's still mid winter, but it will have the same effect as if you go in summer. Basically it's all about just doing something out of the norm to try and help lift your spirits a little. We all get stuck in this rut of everyday same thing same pattern no change. We just need to try and do find something a little out of the normal daily routine to do. It doesn't necessarily need to be something that you go do that requires spending money either. You can do something as simple as go have a picnic in a park if the sun is shining. I understand where you are coming from because I too suffer from depression and I don't want to rely on antidepressants either, so I've tried to find different things to do for myself or with my kids that doesn't cost money and is out of our normal everyday routine. It has helped me tremendously. However there are still times that I can't shake the depression on my own and I need help with medication or just counseling. I wish you the best of luck with this and I hope things will get better for you soon. Take care.

Answer 5

I agree with Hayden. Talking to a professional about these feelings will help you get through them. Seeing that hit and run must make you so scared to be on the road, but there are ways you can make yourself feel protected. Don't just sit there and take pills for something you don't need them for. You can be strong. Find someone who understands you and your needs. Good luck!

Answer 6

Wow I understand I think you should pray. I also think you should Read motivation, positive thinking books. I know your pain. You can't change what happen focus on you and how important to others, think of all good memories. Start thinking about your daughters and how important they are to you. You have three beautiful daughters and they love you a great deal. You are a wonderful mum, You are a great person. Focus on good things please, because remember there are homeless people , there are people who are starving, people with HIV and cancer, You are blessed. Trust In God he won't let you down. Take care. Congratulations on passing your test. Things will get better.

Answer 7

*hugs*

This isn't normal. You need to go talk to someone who can help you sort this out. Ask around and I'm sure you will be able to find a therapist that is either free or very cheap.

Best of luck.

Answer 8

what you must understand is that clinical depression (which is what i think you MAY have) is a biological illness for which there are many treatments today. good news!! please report your symptoms to a physician immediately. there is no need to suffer any longer than you have to.