A close friend's father passed away a week ago, and there will be a memorial service planned sometime next week. Is it appropriate to send flowers, or is is more appropriate to make a charitable donation? I'm not sure what to do, and would appreciate whatever is suggested.
2007-02-07 07:35:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Flowers are very appropriate. You can have them sent to the home, if someone lived with you friend's father, or to the location of the service. Look at a teleflora ftd website under "sympathy" to see what you might be interested in sending. A local florist will give you more personal attention though.
2007-02-07 07:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Vakari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the memorial service be at the funeral home? If so, then it would be appropriate to send flowers for the service.
If you are not sure, you can certainly send a charitable donation in the name of your friend's father. I also suggest you send a separate card to your friend with an appropriate message (I am so sorry for your loss, etc.)
2007-02-07 07:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is appropriate to send flowers unless the obituary notice says something like "In lieu of flowers donations may be made to ........" Most obituaries can be found online nowadays if you haven't seen it. If the father had a certain illness or received services from a hospice, or was an active member of a particular church or charity organization, then families usually appreciate memorial gifts to those places. when you make a donation to a reputable organization the family is notified of this, though generally not the dollar amount.
2007-02-07 07:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by snapoutofit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if its appropriate at you place.. But here, it is common for people to send flowers at a memorial service.. Why, a memorial service isn't considered as a memorial service without flowers..
2016-05-24 03:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think flowers sent to your friend's home is a nice gesture. You can also make a charitable donation in your friend's father's name. Attending the memorial service and being with your friend is the best gift of all.
2007-02-12 11:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For us Europeans, this combination of grief and consumerism would feel awkward.
Even a donation to a charity would seem out of place in this instance. We would attend the memorial service, and
we would also write a heartfelt letter; then, after a suitable period, we'd pay a visit to the family, if really close - and keep in touch by phone even more frequently than before.
2007-02-12 01:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Vivagaribaldi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do both, because if you ask your friend I think he would say a charitable donation, but if you (apart from the donation) send him some flowers, it would be very nice.
P.S: white roses would be just perfect
2007-02-12 08:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by united we stand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the obit in the paper, if they placed one. It will usually say where to send any donations if they chose to do so. I'm not sure if the charity sends them a notice that you made a donation, but just in case send them a nice card and let them know that you made a donation in his name.
2007-02-07 07:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Either is appropriate. Sometimes, the family will have a preference such as a favorite charity of the father.
2007-02-11 09:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to send flowers. send the family a beautiful tree so they can plant in in their yard and watch it grow and mature through out the years.
2007-02-09 05:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by little p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋