Why am I so angry with this guy?

Question

There's a guy who has a crush on me who I decided to take to a semi formal dance, as friends. I thought I liked him but then I realized that I just wanted a boyfriend. This guy is really shy, and when he went out with one of my friends he called her up, asked her out, then said, "I gotta go." So I called him a couple times and we chatted (this is before the dance) and we talked on the internet every once and a while. But the only time he called was when he didnt know what time we were getting pictures.

He said he had a great time at the dance and my friend said I was all he could talk about, but he never called me afterwards. I even called him the day after, but he didnt answer.

A few times he tried to talk to me on AIM but I was busy, so I havent talked to him. Then he just sent me a message asking if I was going to a mixer. he wants to go.

I then realized that I'm really angry at him and that I never want to see him again. (and I'm interested in another guy.) Why am I so angry?

I also want to mention that there was another guy at work who liked my friend, and I was sweet to him. So then he started to like me, and he would come up to me and like tap me on the shoulders and it would drive me nuts. He was really a jerk actually. And when we were leaving work, he said, "I have one thing to say - I'm sorry for being a jackass." I just looked at him and left. Then he came after me and I started mopping. He watched me the whole time I mopped but I pretended he wasn't there. Then he left.

I hate this guy with a passion. WHY??

Well, he has NO control over the relationship, and he is the complete opposite of a player. He's liked me a lot for a long time, but I think he's desperate, I know it sounds mean. I don't want him at the mixer because I'm afraid he'll get hurt if he sees me with someone else. How should I tell him I don't want him around?

I never told him up front that I liked him, but I acted like it. Then when he didn't call and I hadn't talked to him, I moved on, and I thought he was just being REALLY REALLY shy. That's true that I felt like I wasn't important, but I think that's only a small reason why I'm mad.

Answer 1

You aren't angry at him. you are angry with yourself as something in his actions made you feel unimportant or rejected. I ask you honestly; did you tell him you were having this crush on him or expected exclusivity and did you level with him that you were interested in someone else. He is not a mind reader and if you are mad at him ask yourself first, Was I really fair in my expectations if I wasn't up-front with him? If you were then why didn't you tell him up front that you wanted a boyfriend? If you were up-front about these things and you are still pissed then ask yourself what part of your insecurities were affected by his actions? was it your self-esteem? your security? your happiness? your finances? If he is not your interest anymore, then tell him so he won't expect anything of you beyond being an acquaintance.
Dating can suck if you don't communicate honestly, but first you must learn to be honest with yourself!
GOOD LUCK

Edit; if you think that that is only a small part of what's made you mad, then what is the other part? maybe we can figure this out.

Answer 2

Well you need to let him know that your upset with him also let him know what he did. That it was not cool about what he had did. But just don't leave him hot and dry. Reason I say that because alot of guys really don't know what they be doing. You know I was not raise with an father and alot of things that I didn't thank at that time that it was a big deal. But what you do is what you get back. so if your going to let him know over the phone do it on the web.

Answer 3

I think your angry cause he never called u back after u guys went to the dance. Which is messed up. But it seems like he likes to play girls. Just the advice i can give u is talk to this other guy and see what happens..the one u went to the dance with isnt really worth it. Good Luck

Answer 4

Because finally, u realized you cant get what you want. Sorry to say it like that but its true. Not everyone wants you, you're gonna need to accept that in life. Everyone is different and from what it appears you're still in high school and you both got alot to learn anywayz. Don't sweat the petty stuff, pet the sweaty stuff as my dad always taught me.

Answer 5

seem to work out if you're searching back. does not choose a lady that different men did not seem at. He desires slightly extra self-worth. What if he were the single guy at artwork. walk a short while in is shoes, the reply your own question !

Answer 6

i think ur angry at him because u kinda had a thing for him but u were mad cause u didnt talk to him alot u got mad because there was no connection between the two of u...
HOPE THIS HELPS.... if u need anymore advice contact me so it wont go public... im here 2 help... not get points seriously!!!

Answer 7

I think you might just be more annoyed than anything. Ditch him, doesn't sound like you guys have good chemistry anyway. Do it nicely...don't be mean...seeing as it looks likes he shy. Tell him why you are doing it and see what he says. But, if you don't have communication...nothing will ever work.

Answer 8

Who knows?! Maybe you have unresolved issues. But this guy doesn't sound like your type, so allow your friends to choose him if they want to do so. I think you're upset b/c he is so unassertive and you expect a guy to be otherwise. In any event, you've got to let it go sister. Good Luck

Answer 9

i think u have already answer to your own question , you have a passion for him and u do actually like him! Anyway do take your time don't rush into a false passion which end up hurting yourself. take care and good luck.

Answer 10

He broke one of the rules. You always call a lady back, unless you don't want to see her again.