so..known this guy for about 2 years,he told me he had a girlfriend in america but we just went out as mates.Then last week we went out and he held my hand and kissed me.He hasn't mentioned her for a while,i dont want to ask as i have fallen for him,i dread him telling me he is still with her.Do you think he is leading me on or playing mind games? He says he's also moving out there in september,i dunno whether to live with her as like i said he wont mention her.I dunno what to do!
P.S If you're gonna be rude,like give me an up middle finger,then dont bother i've had enough of rude people on here.
2007-02-07 07:13:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think that maybe he is just stringing you along take it from a guy who used to play mind games with females if its been awhile since she was talked about then maybe he's pushing her out of his mind so that when they get back together its as if he never really cheated on her with you if you ask me you should go and find a guy that will treat you like a queen or at least a princess maybe if you raise your self esteem you may see the guy thats right for you
2007-02-07 07:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by strawmanfreedom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule Number 1 in a relationship: Communication.
If you don't want him to play mind games with you, then don't let him. If you feel you're falling for him then you need to ask him what the status is with his girlfriend. Be up front and ask that he do the same. If he's a player as the previous answerer stated, then be on guard because likely he'll tell you exactly what he thinks you want to hear. Listen to your gut and trust your intuiton. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-07 07:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you will ever know is your going to have to ask him up front .....You should ask so at least you know what may of went wrong in his relationship. You have the right to know if he is still attached to his girl friend or not if you plan on taking it further with him. There shouldn't be any secrets between you too even if you keep it as just friends....You don't want to be played by him do you???....."Caution" he may lie so be very careful. I wouldn't take it any further until I get an answer because someone could get hurt.....
2007-02-07 07:34:11 · answer #3 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about you after he has been handling your hand and kissing you. Its the best time and then ask about the g/friend. I t might have gone up in smoke or him might be falling for you as you two have been spending time together and get on. Asking is always the best way really i know its scary and you dont want to but trust me you have to otherwise you wont get one at all and you might get hurt in September, so save yourself and ask.
Good luck
2007-02-07 07:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you he had a girlfriend in America and you were just going out as mates, so why are you making him out to be the bad guy. You haven't mentioned that he tried anything, so how could he be playing mind games with you. It is just like having a guy pal as far as he is concerned, it is just that some guys prefer being around women than men. You are being unfair and giving us guys a bad name
2007-02-07 07:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds confused. Have it out with him about the girl in America - even if you just ask a few tentative questions. The not knowing would kill me, and if you fall for him and then he suddenly ups and leaves you'll be devastated. Bite the bullet, sit him down and say 'That kiss last week was amazing...... don't you feel guilty about your girlfriend? Cos I do.' Then see what he says
2007-02-07 07:22:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jojotraveller 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people can give very rude answers to serious questions. Honestly, I don't know what he's playing at. Maybe he just wants to get some kind of response from you. perhaps he's waiting for you to ask about her and show some kind of jealousy so he'll know how you feel. I'd ask him about her and make him talk. If he's leaving anyway (which I doubt) what have you got to lose?
2007-02-07 07:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by susan h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you definitely need to ask if you really want to know the truth. Yes you might have fallen for him, but you should really find out before you're more attached to him. Don't you want to end up with an honest man and be his number one? Don't waste anymore time and tell him you need to know, and that you're not going to be his number 2!! Stand up for yourself and what you want!
2007-02-07 07:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by krisx42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just bite the bullet and ask him to tell you what's going on!! You need to know so you can move on to someone better if that's the way it has to be.
Be strong!!!!
Hope it works out for you. But do you really want to be with someone who is behaving how he has been with you but has girlfriend? He might do the same to you.
2007-02-07 07:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon - you gotta ask him about it. if you two aren't being honest with eachother - him holding your hand and kissing you means nothing. it might hurt to find out he's still seeing her - but if things go farther with you and you get more invested and then find out he's still with her it will be a hundred times worse. just ask him outright if he's still seeing her and if he's moving to be with her and if so then why is he all about you. try to bring it up when you arent in a compromising position or about to make out so you get the most honest reaction.
2007-02-07 07:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋