I have two kids and my boyfriend is constantly talking about them like they are stupid, dirty and he keeps saying that they are going to end up in jail or something. My daughter is in 3rd grade and makes A's &B's and my son is in Kindergarten and makes the same grades. Everyone loves them except my boyfriend. I want to go back home to my family but I don't have a car or any money. He has made sure of that. can someone please help. Do I just tell him off and call my family or what?
2007-02-07 07:12:39 · 9 answers · asked by Egyptain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My kids are by my exhusband.
2007-02-07 07:32:07 · update #1
My best advice would be: PUT THE CHILDREN FIRST. If they are constantly around someone who verbally abuses them and puts them down, that is not healthy and they should not be subjected to it. If he really loved you, he would love your children as well...they are a part of you.
If I were you, I would call my family and make some kind of arrangements ASAP.
Good luck!
2007-02-07 08:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say get rid of your jerk of a boyfriend. He dosent know if they'll end up like that, hes just making a judgement about them. He sounds like he could be a bad influence on your children especially when they are so young and vulnerable, plus they might actually start believeing his lies and think that they really are bad kids, when their not. He also sounds like he could be abusive down the road I would seriously get out now while you still have a chance, do it for your children. Both you and your children deserve better, plus you dont need a man to make you feel happy you can be so much better off without one then be with one who dosent treat you and your kids right. Good Luck.
2007-02-07 18:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call your family! you need to get out of this realtionship asap. This man does not seam right if he is putting your children down, especially if they are his children too but you didn't verify that. Either way, your children are your world and if they don't get the repect that they deserve especially from the father figure that is in their lives then yes things will take a turn for the worst much sooner than later. You don't need a man in your life that puts your children down, what you need is respect, respect for your self and respect for your children and to make sure that everyone around you knows that. If your family can help you get out of this situation than yes call them but what ever you do don't go back, your family may not be there to help you the next time.
2007-02-07 15:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by babe112083 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your family and everyone and anyone who can help you and don't be proud about it; just get out of there. This "man" is not even the father of your children. He has no right to talk to such little kids like that. What's next? Well, he might start hitting them. Get the f*ck out of there now and while you're at it, tell him to get a clue and learn some respect for other people!
The nerve. What a loser.
2007-02-07 16:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by fun_purple_beach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, your children should be the most important part of your life, so call you family when he is out of the house and plan for someone to come get you just in case he would try to do anything "hurtful" to keep you there. Hope this really helps! Be careful! Remember what people say to your children now will affect them for the rest of their lives so its your call. Mia.
2007-02-11 01:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't sound like a loving, caring parent figure. It's obvious that he doesn't want to be their father. Why waste time hoping he will change and accept your kids? Find someone who cares about you and your kids.
Also, you may be putting your children's lives in danger. I have read that kids who live with their mother's boyfriend (who is not the father of the kids) are at risk for abuse and murder from the boyfriend. I see it the newspaper time and again that a boyfriend will get angry while babysitting and hurt the kids. You don't want to risk your children's welfare like this.
2007-02-07 15:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by ajh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You leave him immediately. He is being abusive to you and your kids and you do not want your kids to grow up thinking they are not loved. Go somewhere and call your family and ask them to send you money to come back home. Get out of there fast.
2007-02-07 15:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your family or a friend, get out of there. He is abusive and a jerk. I would NEVER let someone talk about my kids that way.
2007-02-07 15:19:46 · answer #8 · answered by bilowi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for starters, let's stop calling him your boyfriend
2007-02-11 04:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋