My parents got divorced right after i was born and i am 26 years old now. I have a sister that is 7 years older then me. While growing up with just our mom my dad was always there for financial support. Not much emotional support, but we never went with out. We would spend summers with him and go on the road with him, but he was not around because he is an insurance adjuster and he was on the road all of the time. My sister was close to my dad until she got married and moved to Texas. She has 3 kids and they all come down all the time to visit my mom but she never visits my dad and he is 45 minutes away from my mom.This hurts my dad big time. Every time i try to mend the relationship between my sister and my dad my mom and sister bite my head off saying there are things that i don't understand.i want them to get along so what should i do. How can i get them to reconnect or should i just stay out of it.He is 70 with health probs and i am scared he will die and she will regret it
2007-02-07 07:12:28 · 5 answers · asked by micah z 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is always tough in these situations. You could try to ask your sister what is it that you wouldnt understand. Your 26 now and an adult so what you couldnt understand as a child you will understand now. I wouldnt pressure her to see your dad until she is ready. I know it hurts you but you have to wait until she is ready. I have been in this situation before, with me being your sister who didnt want to see my dad. At 29 I finally came around and now I have a nice relationship with him. He did a lot of hurtful things and I had to wait until I was ready to forgive him. From my own experience noone would have been able to get me to give in and if you try to hard it could get you and your sister angry at each other and you dont want that!
2007-02-07 11:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by justicenow232 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be a reason for your sister not visiting your dad that you don't know about, so I'd be careful about putting too much pressure on her to see him if I were you. If you push her too hard you might drive a wedge between the two of you. I'd try to get her to tell you why she won't see your dad before I'd take any further. And don't automatically take his side before you've heard hers.
2007-02-07 15:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really only have 2 options... Pick a side, or stay out of it.. I would suggest the latter as the better option..
2007-02-07 15:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it. you have made it known that you feel bad and wish things would be different...but thats all you can do.you are just exhausting yourself. your sister has to deal with what is in her heart, and she will if and when the time is right.
2007-02-07 15:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it to the Lord in prayer. Prayer makes things happen. I pray and hope that the Lord will reward your efforts. "Blessed are the Peace-makers".
2007-02-07 15:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by 9ja-4-life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋