I dont want to feel guilty if i do it and i dont know if thats all he wants from me
2007-02-07 07:11:41 · 18 answers · asked by mari 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a males point of view, if he does not respect you enough to wait till you are married then I suggest that you get rid of him and move on!! I'm sure that if you give in to his pressure you will regret having done so!! You have waited this long, why stop now? Is this the man for you? If so, then he will wait until the night of your marriage! If not, then there is no need to fret because you should get rid of his a**!! Just my personal opinion of course. The guy is a jerk!!
2007-02-07 07:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised the same way and I waited until I was 24, nearing 25. Don't do it unless you're sure you want to and he's the right guy to do it with. You don't want to end up remembering your first time negatively. There's only 1 first time, you can't take it back, you can't re-do it. If that's not all he wants from you he won't pressure you and will understand. My bf never made it an issue and even kept asking me if I was sure when I decided I wanted to. It's YOUR decision and ONLY YOURS. Be smart and in control of who you are and what you want.
2007-02-07 07:19:23 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedHMD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out, and see how he reacts, if he truly loves you he will stick around. What you have a precious and you have a first time only once. You are no an individual and have the right to chose if you want to wait for marriage or just the right one in the since of being in love. Only you will no the difference.
2007-02-07 07:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by sweetpee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your friend first then he should have respect for what you want to do instead of what your friends or society is doing. You only have this experience once, it's worth when it's with the only one. I was in the situation but i was 18. It's not worth it. It almost cost me my bestfriend. And the guy was only around for 11 days. NOT MAKING THIS UP. You are worth something to yourself before any guy. If you are not ready, no guy is going to make you ready or should have you beleive that. when you are ready for you and your someone to do this, ooh my gooooodnes, you will have bliss and pleasure beyond anything you can't ever feel let alone comprehend.!!!!!!!!
2007-02-07 07:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crunch 23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on sticking to your beliefs so far (don't let people tell you that you're being silly or that you're "old enough" to do it-- it's completely your personal decision).
Do YOU want to do it? That's really all it comes down to. I was raised that way also, and I held on for awhile, til I was 18, but then I lost it, and it was kind of stupid. I didn't care about him or anything. With my fiancee, though, I regret nothing. I think the question is whether or not you love him and want to be with him. Don't do it just because he wants you to, and don't not do it just because your parents don't want you to.
2007-02-07 07:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by courtney 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what feels right to you, after all you have to live with yourself. If your boyfriend really loves you he will understand and respect how you feel, if he gets upset or leaves you because if your not wanting to have sex, then he was never the right guy for you in the first place. Stick to your morals and what you feel is right.
2007-02-07 07:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you could do something like mutual masturbation, that would at least help him out greatly and maybe you would enjoy it also. Good luck and have fun. I respect your parents wishes for you and I hope you stick to your guns and wait to have intercourse on your wedding day, but until then you still could have some fun and explore each others desires.
2007-02-07 07:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not what your parents or your bf wants BUT what YOU want!!! have sex when you are ready!!!! it's your life and your old enough to decide what you want, but don't have sex just because your bf wants to, if he really loves you he would wait till you were ready!
2007-02-07 07:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure, if you have been with him for 2 yrs, they may have already figured you have....But they will never ask unless you tell them. At 22, you should not care so much about what your parents are thinking! You are well underway starting your own life!!
2016-05-24 03:42:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your beliefs. Don't let him pressure you. If he cannot respect your decision to wait, leave him. Sex is not the most important part of a relationship. You deserve better.
2007-02-07 07:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋