Her daughter weighs 95lbs.... She has broken 2 of my daghters chairs that were like brandnew. They had metal frames. How do I get her to sit on the couch, rather then the childrens stuff where she is just way to big for it? I don't want to have to replace anymore chairs and I don't want to have to be mean either. I tried folding the chairs up and putting them away but then there are not enough chairs for everyone to sit in. Help please???
2007-02-07 07:09:24 · 7 answers · asked by erinjl123456 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think subtlty towards the girl is probably the best bet - she's young, and at this point? It's more of her parent's fault than her. You might want to have a serious discussion with your friend, and emphasise that this can be solved a lot easier now then it can be in the future - this girl has a very short time to go before she's going to start feeling extremely self conscious about her weight.
As for how you can settle things? Pull out the pillows, and make it fun! Dont' single the girl out, but put away the chairs for a while and emphasise how you're all going to sit on the pillows today - act like it's special and fun, and they'll probably believe you. Walmart, and various other stores - have a ton of fun, and kid-friendly pillows that are comfortable to sit on. Heck, some are even designed to it.
They'll be a great addition to your daughter's room, /and/ you won't have to worry about broken chairs~!
2007-02-07 07:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Okayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my only suggestion might be to get a few bean bag chairs those are easy and work for all sizes and place the other chairs in the garage or your room when she comes to visit explaining to your daughter that since her special friend ---- is coming over you have some fun cool new chairs to play with and that's all you can do other then buy new chairs! sorry
2007-02-07 07:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the chairs put away, and let the kids sit on the floor. They're kids. If they're doing a 'table' activity (painting, play-doh, etc.) just put them in the kitchen. Surely she won't break those chairs.
2007-02-07 07:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet201 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, how does a 95 lb little girl break a METAL chair? I'm not sure what you can do besides buy new more durable chairs that can withstand her weight. Obviously, you cannot tell the little girl she's too fat for the chairs-that would just break her heart. So either deal with broken chairs or buy ones that can handle her weight.
2007-02-07 07:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Wouldn't you consider it a breach of hospitality if you were invited to a home and not provided a suitable place to sit? A six-year-old guest in your home deserves the same courtesy you would expect, and a kind hostess would not make an issue of her size.
If you are concerned about her well-being, and not just worried about your furniture, you might consider talking to the child's mother, when the child is not present, and offer some help or advice about where to get help to provide the child adequate medical attention and nutritional guidance.
2007-02-07 07:22:26 · answer #5 · answered by Suzianne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had/have the same problem with my niece. i agree with sweet hough. theres nothing wrong with letting them sit on the floor. i did when i was younger and i do the same with my kiddos. if their eating, doing homework, crafts, etc...let them sit at the table. it's a win/win situation.
2007-02-07 08:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by portuguese_tease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the parents, and then tell the girl. be blunt about it, because obvoiusly breaking the chairs isnt stopping her.
2007-02-07 07:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by swatthefly 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋