Went on a cruise without you? We have been together for almost 5 years and it's been great, but all the sudden he wants to go on a cruise with some friends (that are shady) and my work will not alow me to take that much time off or else I would go. He says he wants to go reguardless. Maybe I just feel left out. Should I be worried or angry? We never go anywhere without each other.
2007-02-07 06:51:12 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just let him go
2007-02-07 06:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it either. I know it is good for couple to do things apart, but a cruise? You would think if he was gonna spend that much money that he would save it and plan something to do with you when your job would allow you time off. What concerns me is that this cruise means more to him than how you feel. Seems as if you have no other option but to let him go. Hopefully he will have a bum time and want to come home. I heard there is usually couples on cruises. Hope he is not thinking of taking a female companion. Just a thought.
2007-02-07 07:51:14 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt worry about it... if he would have wanted to cheat on you or anything he would have done it already cuz am sure his friends are the same as when you met him.You should trust him..you guys have been together for 5 years thats a long time in this day in age to still be together..soo let him enjoy himself.. while he's gone go out with your girlfriends and have a ball while he's not around. Since you guys have never been apart this is a crucial experience that is much needed if you plan on taking this relationship for the long run (marriage etc). Better now than later on in the relationship once marriage is involved and children if you plan on any.
2007-02-07 06:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jessel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The confident modern woman in me says to let him have a good time, you have a good time while he's gone. But let's get real...that sounds shady to me and on a primal level I would be very angry that he would want to leave me behind. Who goes on a cruise without their romantic partner? If he were single and going with friends that would make sense but to leave you behind sounds shady to me. If he were going fishing or camping I would understand. I want to be really hip about the separate vacations thing but I'm just not.
Of course if it's a sign that the relationship is going down, you can't really stop that or fight it by keeping him home (this will only backfire and make you look desperate). I would talk to him about it.
2007-02-07 06:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by bilowi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you were invited and you cannot go, then I don't see what the big deal is. They are his friends and he wants to go. If you don't trust him without you then you just wasted 5 years of your life. As for never going anywhere without each other perhaps you should take this time to hang out with your girlfriends and do a little pampering of yourself. Just relax, I'd be more worried on why there is no ring with that amount of time under your belt than I would be about a week apart.
2007-02-07 06:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by rothe_jabbuk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and let the man go. If you cannot trust him then don't be with him. You two need to have seprate as well as together lives. Women always feel left out and we always look at our boyfriends as shady. Why is that? Is this his first oppertunity to go on a cruise, let alone go with his freinds? If so, think of what you would want if this were you. Be honest with yourself. You know you would want to go deepdown.
If he betrays your trust the he would have done that eventually at home anyway.
Put trust in front of self in your relationship it will soar to new heights.
2007-02-07 07:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ordena H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someday you should read the book "The Prophet" by Kahlil Gibran. It's a very easy book to read, and it has a lot of chapters about life, and relationships..
He says:
"You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow."
In other words.. Nobody needs to be together 24/7...
It's perfectly normal to have different interests and to have fun WITHOUT eachother.
I've been married for 14 years.. It gets worse when you have kids.. lemme tell you.
Use the time to do something YOU like to do.. and don't give him a hard time about it.. He'll just resent you for it.
2007-02-07 06:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after that long of dating, I wouldn't see why he would want to go on a cruise without you. I would be worried because he wants to go without me. Who knows what will happen when he is around guy friends and the girls on the cruise. Any good boyfriend would work around your schedule and try to make you happy.
2007-02-07 06:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Soccer Taz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, this way you don't seem clingy, but then propose that the two of you have a nice get away weekend to catch up, so then you can work around you works times and spend some fun quality time with your bf. Trust your bf to not become pressured to his friends "shady" acts
2007-02-07 06:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by thinkin2myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okayyy, the first question u have to ask yourself is can u trust him and the second is why does he want to go when u cant come?if it was me id be really wary especially as u say his friends are shady ask your boyfriend why its so important that he goes and see how he would feel if u did the same,it could be that he wants to have a bit of time with his mates and this will not harm your relationship one bit,or theres something seedy going on and u need to get it sorted just talk to him and find out best of luck
2007-02-07 07:02:09 · answer #10 · answered by binky677 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to have a good time with friends. Be careful though cause that may include other girls...maybe you should prepare him a special night before he leaves, the night of his life, and each day of the cruise he will remember it.
2007-02-07 06:54:44 · answer #11 · answered by teen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋