yes take him back as he didn't really do anything wrong
2007-02-07 06:51:44
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answered by Anonymous
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If he is putting a guilt trip on you about your son. You can turn this around and remind him that your son is living with you. That you care for your son 24/7 and if he was any kind of a father he would be doing the same, instead of running around with another woman. If he's man enough to make a baby, he should be man enough to face the responsibilities that goes with being a daddy. Other wise he's not a daddy at all. Only a man that made a baby. Any man can do that, so no big deal. But daddies, they are special.
2007-02-07 07:00:48
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answered by Vida 6
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you are NOT being selfish. only you will know when the time is right to begin dating. If you have known he was cheating for some time, you have probably gone through the healing process, and quite possibly be ready to date. But keep in mind, that if it still hurts profusely (like ripping a scar off and feeling the searing burn), then you may not be ready to date. Or you might just want a "rebound". Nothing serious, just something to keep you occupied on something other than your ex being a scheming sleaz-ball. Just do what feels right. There is no perfect timeline in starting over. Only you will know the right time.
2007-02-07 06:55:03
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answered by Anonymous
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I feel it is way too soon for you to even think of dating. And I am not saying this because of your boyfriend, I am concerned of the effects all of this has had on your son. You must realise how confusing your child's life is by first his daddy is not there anymore, then you want to confuse matters worst by bringing someone else into the picture? The only advice I can offer you is to concentrate on what is best for your son. If when you do decide to go out then please do not introduce and involve any man into your life with your son too soon.. Until you meet the guy that is willing to marry you then you can start to slowly involve him with your child. I do wish you the very best, I can imagine how you are hurt and lonely because of your boyfriend cheating on you, but try not to make haste decisions too soon.. Best of luck to you!!
2007-02-07 07:00:05
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answered by pictureshygirl 7
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Don't let him have any say over what you do. Why would he be granted that right when he cheated on you? You do what is right for you. You can be a good mother and live your own life as well. He's just making up excuses b/c he's jealous. That whole do as I say, not as I do bit is for the 1950's.
There's no time limit on getting over anything, if you're ready, then move on and tell him you lost your say when you cheated, you can help to raise your son, but not me.
2007-02-07 06:55:08
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answered by nymom 5
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No, sweetie, not selfish, just a little lonely and a little foolish.
I've been that mom, trust me.
But even at 19, I just wanted to go on with my life. Concentrate on better things. And for all of four months, I did.
Wish it was for four years.
At 27, when I finally got laid-off and sick at the same time, I figured out that I needed to get myself straight, and to heck with dating.
I became happy with myslef, by myself.
And that's how we need to be each time we begin a new relationship.
Because if you don't make you happy, how can you make a man happy?
And that includes the little man!
So please, take your time to get through this. You WILL be OK, I promise.
It's time to clean up the mess at home, instead of ditching home to make yet another mess, you see?
2007-02-07 06:54:48
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answered by starryeyed 6
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no count number how a lot you imagine your self as an adult, you're nonetheless a fifteen y/o female. you wouldn't have regarded into your father's pages. Your father wouldn't have advised your about your mom's issues. Did it ensue to you that they have a serious marital difficulty? they strive against daily, do not they? There should be another reason that your father stayed which includes your mom understanding that she had an affair. possibly what you stumbled on immediately, is the present tale of his dishonest. possibly he has finished it contained in the previous, which grew to grow to be your mom off. purely stay out of your mothers and fathers' corporation, enable them cope with their very personal situation, do not take a part. bear in ideas, both one among them love you and they have your best pastime of their ideas, in spite of tthey do.
2016-12-03 20:49:56
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answered by barnas 4
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no u are not selfish..im sorry about his cheating...he has no right to be giving you a hard time, about u starting to date. don't pay him no mind. u shouldn't feel guilty about starting a new life and possibly find a "good" man who can love u and ur son. go for it. good luck
2007-02-07 06:54:06
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answered by prchik 5
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Not at all. He is the one who was cheating and now you are no longer together (should be exboyfriend). If you two are not seeing each other then he has no right to tell you anything to do. You should date, but do not hid the fact you have a child. If they are going to run at the mention of it early on, you are wasting everyone's time.
2007-02-07 06:51:50
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answered by rothe_jabbuk 3
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he cheated...you are separated, and you WANT to go out with other people.it sure looks like whats left between the two of you is your son! that part will never change. but as far as your personal life....move forward. you "ex" cannot be trusted and you deserve better. make good choices however so as your son grows up...he will see a good example in you.
be strong and be happy!
2007-02-07 06:55:44
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answered by dali333 7
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I think you should go out and date because he did, not saying you have to do what he did to you but if you are ready to move on you just have to do what you need to do and tell him what is up and you tell him that yes he can be in the baby's life he just can't cross the line.I hope you not having mixed feeling.
2007-02-07 07:00:40
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answered by Shalla 2
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