A friend and I had a fling for about 3 months not too long ago. We hit it off in so many ways, mentally and physically. We remain very close even though I just moved pretty far away. He just got engaged to his long time girlfriend. Do I tell him I have feelings for him, or keep it in so as not to take away from his situation?
2007-02-07 06:44:35 · 10 answers · asked by Channing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you really care for someone you want them to be happy and if he's getting married he's happy.
It's more about him than about you.
Wish him well and move on with your life.
2007-02-07 06:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand how you feel. if you tell him either A) He'll leave the girl that hes with and be with you or B) tell you that the two of you can remain good friends. Obv. your guy has feelings for whom hes with and you have to keep in mind if you say something you are putting three peoples emotions at risk. (yours, his, and the girl that hes marrying). If hes been with his gf for a long tme like you stated, hes prob. not going to budge. he loves her enough to marry her. believe it or not, this couple has prob. already started making weddingplans. keep everyones feelings in mind. Have you tried meeting other guys? taking up some really fun activities, taking up your free time with something constructive will cause you to focus on something else and slowly forget about him. your time will come, and someone great will come along and one day as you to marry him!!! =)
2007-02-07 14:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by girl who whats to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg!! that was the past, you guys can't relive that, he's happy and in love, leave him alone, don't begin to be a home wrecker! Obviously you were just a "fling" for him he found the women he actually wants to marry. If you have respect for yourself leave him alone and move on!
2007-02-07 14:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♥AMO♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was screwing around with you while he had a girlfriend, then she isn't so lucky.... and he obviously thought more of her than you because he kept you on the side and put a ring on her finger... seems like you were fun for a while, but not his idea of long term respectable commitment... tell him how you feel, but he'll still marry her!
2007-02-07 14:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Fa!thfuIIy H!s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he got engaged i think the boat has sailed on this one!
i know you have strong feelings and want to get them out but maybe you should let it go. out of respect for him and his fiance's feelings.
if he felt the same i think he would have not got engaged to her so you would just be beating a dead horse and creating more problems that would just make everything worse than it is now.
but, on the other hand, if this is one of those times that you feel strongly that his decision is a bad one for reasons that are not clear to him (like maybe he is confused) and you really, really, really, really, really, honest to god think this, with probable, logical, reasoning, then i say go for it! if you don't you may regret it for the rest of your life.
But, remember, you are playing with fire with stufff like this. be very careful bc you will hurt more than just him. keep in mind he did get engaged to her and didn't come to you. you can't let your own feelings override your sense of right and wrong-that woul be selfish. you have to rationally think this one out.
good luck
2007-02-07 14:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why didn't you speak before he got engaged? He made his decision now and if you really care for him you should support his decision and not meddle in now.
2007-02-07 15:29:16 · answer #6 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him hurry before it's too late! Go!
2007-02-07 14:55:31 · answer #7 · answered by **Taira** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4get about those feeling is 2 late now. move on for your own good
2007-02-07 14:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by RED ROSE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he proposed to her, stay out of it. He probably didn't think that much of you and it would spair you the rejection.
If she proposed to him, let it all out!!!
2007-02-07 14:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by kssunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hime dont keepit hidden
2007-02-07 14:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by clownjoker17 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋