I just started my new job in Dec. I work with all men. There is this one guy who I really like. He is not the best looking guy in the world but he is so sweet. He is living with the mother of his child right now but miserable. He comes into the office daily to talk about his problems. He says he is only with her so she doesn't move away and take his son. I really like him. What should I do?
2007-02-07 06:34:12 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm... is your company allowing co-worker relationship?
2007-02-07 06:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by equality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get involved with this guy, and he is encumbered (with the mother of his kid), he will eventually have to choose. Odds are, sadly, that he'll choose to stay where he is, for the sake of his kid. You will probably end up hurt and sad, AND having to look at this guy every day at work, possibly with your relationship a topic of discussion around the water cooler.
Oh, baby, I been there. AM there right now.
This woman in my office is in the same spot, and we've been 'together' now for over a year. But it's been a painful year.
Great sex, for a while, developing emotions, increasing stress over being caught. She starts neglecting me, I start asking her what's happeining, the tension grows.
We see each other every day at work, and it makes my pain heavier.
One sad fact. Most relationships end, eventually. If you work with someone and the relationship breaks up, it WILL affect your work life.
There is a VERY WISE old saying I will heed for evermore - 'Do not dip your pen in the company ink'.
2007-02-07 14:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Randy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you hook up with this guy, there will be problems. No matter what, his son will come first to him. So once you guys start getting serious, you will always be third. His son first, baby's mama second, and you at the end of the line. Im sorry dearie, but go for the other men at ur work.
2007-02-07 14:38:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ayeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and his baby mama drama alone. Talk to someone else at work who doesn't have all of the baggage and ask him if he wants to have drinks. Go out with him so you can pick up guys you don't work with. Work place relationships can be hot, but they can end up really bad. Unless this is not a career position for you and you don't mind a cheap fling. Otherwise date outside of the workplace and stay away from sappy losers who choose bad relationships and aren't mature enough to get out of them.
2007-02-07 14:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by TNT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. For one dating people you work w/ gets ugly! Espically if you end up dating and then breaking up makes the work environment uncomfortable for both of you and others around you. Don't put yourself in a position to loose a new job.
The living w/ his x is not good. For one they are probably sleeping in the same bed, even though they might not have sex. Do you want to call his house and she answers the phone and you ask to speak w/ him? I'd not get involved.
2007-02-07 14:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by icom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful sometimes guys act like there having problem just to get with a girl. Second , you don't want to mess with a guy who's got a girl especially if they are living together you don't need the drama. Do you? Well good look.
2007-02-07 14:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful with that. make sure that he really is miserable. Wait for him to move out of the house. do not do anything while he still lives with her. Don't even give him your phone number unless you want some baby momma drama if you know what i mean. Girls can be very prtective of men and there is a kid involved. save yourself the drama
2007-02-07 14:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by rain9439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know. that's your call. sounds like you know what you're dealing with-now you just have to decide if you want to make that step foward.
just keep in mind that guys will BS stuff if it means getting some action. we're bastards that way. we'll over dramatize any minor problem (non existant ones too!) if it means we can get the attention and sympathy of a possible sex partner. we are pathetic that way. especially the guys that don't look that good. they know they have to make up for it in other ways! like having some sob story!
just don't fall for it. use your BS detector to the best of your ability. plus, you don't want to get the rep of "office ho" that happens a lot at my work. i'm the only guy who hasn't had sex with the girl in our department yet! and that's bc she is friends with my gf! i still might though becuase i'm horn ball. but, the point is, she became office ho bc it started with one guy she felt sympathy for-that went bust-and then she started passing around to every guy there. it has ruined her chances for mobility bc the guys don't respect her (boss included). but she is dumb bc she thinks it has possitioned her for a promotion.
girls are dumb like this-don't be one of them!
2007-02-07 14:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that comes in and explains or tells you the bad things in his life just want's to get ya naked and have his way with you.
I sincerly doubt his relationship is all that bad and just wants some new loving to make him feel like a man or maybe the man he may think he is!!!
2007-02-07 14:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to control your desires and keep it at a level of friendship right now. He needs to take care of his own problems. Let him get out of his marriage first. Think about this - if you do become a catalyst for a divorce, what would that mean? See what he can figure out for himself.
2007-02-07 14:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be his friend and that's it. Imagine if he leaves this woman for you and she comes after you. Or if you start dating, then break up. You're stuck working with him. There is a reason some companies have no dating policies.
2007-02-07 14:38:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋