im thinking about getting started on my wedding plans, my cousin (who i am pretty good friends with also) said she wants to be my maid of honor. im not the maid of honor in her wedding and i dont care, we're not as close as we used to be before this guy came along and thats fine, the problem is that my friend who ive been friends with for 18 yrs, is moving back to my area and i really want to make her the maid of honor, i know my cousin is a huge baby and will through a fit, i doubt that she would even settle as a bridesmaid, should i just say screw it, its my day and do what i want, or what????
2007-02-07 06:23:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yep, that is what you should do, not only because it is what YOU want and it is YOUR day, but if cousin is a big baby how much good is she going to do you on the big day if she is having a bad hair day and only thinks of herself?...
I think your wedding day is the one day that is quite simply put all about you...and your hubby to be...yo choose who you want...and you know what...offer no excuses they will strangle you. You simply say I have chosen my friend to be my maid of honor. period....no need to explain to anyone, including your cousin, when you are assertive and leave no room for negotiation, peple listen and accept.
Look at it this way, you are old enough t get married, you are old enough to choose your own maid of honor..end of it. I am assuming your cousin isn't paying for the wedding so do what yo want....you owe nobody anything on this day...you have the rest of your life to think of others first, trust me on that one, but not on this day...it belongs to you....good luck...be strong.
2007-02-07 06:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. It is your wedding not your cousins. She sounds like she wants to try and out do you at your own wedding. If you really feel as though you should include her in that way you could always have 2 maids-of-honor or if she is married before you, you can make her your matron-of-honor. If she throws a fit tell her that it is your wedding and that you would like her to be involved, but not the way she is acting.
She should remember that you don't go a Bride telling her that you want to be her Maid-of-honor, the Bride comes to you and asks you to stand up for her on her special day.
2007-02-07 16:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by Important 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick your friend, that's the point of having a maid of honor. Who cares if your cousin throws a fit it's not her wedding
2007-02-07 14:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by DEVOTED TO YOU 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The point of having a Maid of honor is to pick someone that you are close to. Who cares if she wants to be yours, You do not have to have her be the Maid of honor. Its your wedding you pick who you want! and remember she is planning her wedding the way that she wants and she chose not to have you as her maid of honor!
2007-02-07 14:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want. It was wrong of her to offer to be you maid of honor, especially since you aren't hers. It is your day, and you will regret it forever if you don't choose the maid of honor who you really want.
2007-02-07 14:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you have 2 maids-of-honor? If you don't want that, I'd ask the friend that you really want. Be prepared for the fall-out from your cousin though!
2007-02-07 14:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Pam C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
don't let other people and their possible actions affect your decision of who to choose as a maid of honor.
go with your friend. if you think your cousin will be a big baby about it don't put her in the wedding party at ALL, especially if you think she will try to ruin the joyous day.
It is your and your grooms day.
2007-02-07 16:02:03 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have who YOU want. you didn't mean enough to her for her to make you her maid of honor, whats the difference. your friend should be your maid of honor. who cares if she has a hissy fit, its YOUR DAY, not hers, she will have her day she sounds selfish and your friend and yourself will form a stronger friendship and be friends forever good luck
2007-02-07 14:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by christine z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want, have the maid of honor you want not be guilted into having one you don't want.
2007-02-09 23:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have two maid of honors? I have many friends who have done this! Everyone will understand since one is a family member and the other a friend! Congrats!
2007-02-07 14:28:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋